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Thursday, November 29, 2007

love really hurts

Let us make no mistake love can sometimes hurt and hurt badly. This hurt can cause us all types of feelings of pain and dismay as we try and cope with the feelings of pain that stop us in our tracks. What causes us pain and where does it come from?
Pain is a feeling that comes from rejection. When someone hurts us to the point that we feel reject immediately we begin to feel pain. In the end this pain can either turn into grief or it can turn into anger. In either of these forms it can be difficult to get over.
The anger of grief that we feel continues to gnaw at our psyche because it is not something we are able to rectify in our own minds. We have questions and the thoughts invade our heads simply because we are attempting to discover the reason why we are rejected.
The more gruesome and bold the rejection the more likely it is going to cause us pain. For example, if we have a good relationship with someone and we catch them cheating on us we begin to wonder what went wrong. Obviously if we cheated on them many times and find that their action was to punish us we wouldn't feel nearly as angry as if it was unprovoked.
Until we get an answer or are able to file away the incident it will consume our efforts. In many cases we may not actually be able to sleep because we keep thinking about what has happened or why it has happened. Weaving a good story can help us.
The next time that you are so completely damaged understand the nature of the feelings of rejection and the reason why we keep questioning. We are better able to put the issue to rest if we can find a reason or weave a believable story. It might be mind tricks but it sure does help (most of us simply blame the other people

Monday, November 26, 2007

go for the anal!

Have you been looking for new ways to turn the heat up for your lover and give her more intense orgasms? Did you know that the entire pelvic floor region of human anatomy is super sensitive to stimulation?
That means the undersides of a woman’s ass, her inner thighs, the outer lips of her labia and, yes, her anus are all areas that can be teased and caressed to bring about even more intense erotic pleasure.
This is powerful information if you use it properly.
But it takes some finesse. What you don’t want to do is move forward like a complete oaf, trying to jam a finger up her back door with no warning (and worse no lube) and concentrating only on your own thrill of venturing into new territory.
No.
Anal sex (whether stimulation from a finger, a toy, or the full Monty) is still a taboo subject for many people (and illegal is some states).
If you find that you can’t bring the subject up directly with your lover than you need to move forward with care and caution. And yes, some women might totally freak if you ask her about it casually, but in the heat of the moment if you play your cards right, she might find the sensation so pleasurable she totally forgets her inhibitions.
But remember I said to move forward with care and caution. Now let me point out why. Unlike the vagina the rectum doesn’t self lubricate, it’s lining is also delicate and prone to tearing, so no rough cuticles or hang nails, or forcing things to happen – and never without proper lubrication. Let me be very clear here – it hurts like hell.
Also, the rectum is full of very virulent bacteria, so if you touch the entrance, or go inside, you cannot touch anything else before washing your hand with soap and water.
But nothing ventured, nothing gained, and the payoff is worth it.
So let’s say you and your gal are getting down, having a good time, and you want to try this new thing. How do you introduce it while in action? Let’s say you’re giving her some oral action, start by caressing the undersides of her tush with your fingers (always keeping your ears and eyes open for her reactions) slowly moving towards her back door. If her breathing quickens even more, if she starts making more noise, than you can whisper as your fingers inch closer “ever thought of a little extra stimulation back here?”
If she vigorously shakes her head and tenses up, today’s not your day.
If she shrugs, or moans but ignores the question, or (hopefully) says something like “yeah, that sounds good right now” don’t be greedy – again move slowly. The anus is so sensitive that simply stroking the entrance of it while going down on her will add fireworks. In fact, that’s probably how you should start…
And remember to use extra lubricant.
So let’s say you’d like to introduce a little more anal play into your routine. The easiest way to add to the action during intercourse is with her on top. With her on top, grinding away, you can cup her ass in your hands and slowly work your way around to her back door again. If she enjoyed the extra stimulation at the entrance, try inserting just the tip of a finger – remember a little goes a long way with anything new you’re trying. Don’t push further than she’s comfortable with you going.
Once you find out that she actually enjoys this sort of stimulation then you can branch out into using toys, and yes, even anal intercourse – but always remember that you shouldn’t push her farther than she’s comfortable because something that’s meant to ad pleasure can end up causing pain.
Now, it may so happen that your gal is the sort who likes fair play. She might just turn around and say that she’s more than willing to let you try anal stimulation on her – if you let her try it on you. Be open minded (but no, I’m not suggesting she go get a strap on if you’re not ready or interested in that), you have that same pelvic floor region she does, and remember that men have an area inside of the anus (called the prostrate gland – which women don’t have) that can actually trigger quite intense orgasms.

7 signs he's intrested

Are you actively flirting with a guy you see frequently but having trouble knowing for sure whether he might want to get together? It can be frustrating not knowing whether he may feel the same way as you do. Wouldn't it be great to be able to read his mind? While that may not be possible, there are a number of telltale signs that he is probably very interested. Here are 7 of those signs:
Sign #1: He uses your name often when he speaks to you: If he likes you, your name is literally music to his ears and he will want to say it often. It makes him feel good to say your name.
Sign #2: He tends to brush up against or touch you: Those little innocent brushes in the hallway or light touches on the shoulder at your desk are not by accident. They are ways of being closer to you and are a prelude to more intimate physical touching.
Sign #3: He ignores you at odd times: If he is unsure about how you feel about him, he may actually try ignoring you at certain times. He may be nervous about what to say, or he could be afraid that you will catch a glimpse in his eyes of how he really feels about you.
Sign #4: You are good friends but he avoids talking about his love life: If you two are friends but he wants more, he may conspicuously avoid telling you about whom he is dating or he may leave key details out. This is a classic sign that he is trying to protect your feelings and also that he is trying not hamper the possibility of dating you in the future.
Sign #5: He tends to ignore other women when you are around: For example, if there are three attractive women in the room and he is giving you by far the most attention, that is a huge sign that he likes you.
Sign #6: He looks for your reaction first when he tells a joke: If you are in a group situation and he tells what he thinks is a funny joke, he will give his first eye contact after the punch line to the person on whom he has a crush.
Sign #7: His close friends ask you about whom you are dating: Do you find that his friends have asked you about your love life? They may be trying to find out more information and then feeding it back to him so that he can stay informed.
Once you know are fairly sure that he likes you, it is time to take action. Put together a step-by-step plan for getting him to fall for you

how to get the beautiful girl of your dreams

How many times have you seen an absolutely breathtaking woman walk by, arms draped lovingly around a guy that is not nearly as good looking as you? All the time, right? You know how many times I've had a guy friend freak out over yet another beautiful hottie dating a guy with just average looks? Happens every time we all go out! And this is where you guys get it consistently wrong. Maybe it's just that we are much deeper creatures than you guys, but.....there is A LOT more to being sexy than a handsome face or a pumped up bod. I'll go as far as to say that EVERY one of my beautiful girl friends goes out with a guy who has just about average looks. (And a few I even think are below average - but they are still SEXY!) Now, obviously these have something you don't right? I mean, you are an attractive guy and you have probably dated some pretty girls, but I'm guessing if you're honest, you'll admit that few of them have been absolutely STUNNING. Here are a few easy ways to pick up your rap a notch next time you see a woman you want, but think she's out of your league. (She's not, trust me!)
1)You have got to believe you are worthy of dating the woman in the room that all eyes can't stop watching....The woman who makes the clock on the wall stop ticking....If you don't have the confidence that she belongs with you, you'll NEVER get her. That is where it all begins, guys. I can spot a man who's got "IT" - even if he's just ok looking, from a mile and a half away, on a foggy day and without my glasses on..:-) That's how powerful confidence is. When you see it, it knocks you over and brings a beautiful woman to her knees. If you don't have it now, you need to get it. And soon!
2)Make her feel she needs to be WORTHY of going home with YOU. This is easier said than done for most men, but for the man who you want to be? It will come naturally. The average looking guy who has mastered this skill is so far ahead of the great looking guy with no appeal other than a good looking face. A handsome guy grows old quick, boys. But the challenge of a guy who makes US work for it, that goes on forever! Develop the "game" of keeping us one step behind and you will always be on top. (Or at least as far as keeping us interested goes..:-)
3)Compliment her - but not on her looks! This is so simple....Yet 99% of guys will just never get this.... (Although YOU will!) Everyone compliments her on her looks. She KNOWS she looks good. But she's still insecure, just like you. Most likely, her insecurities are simply in other areas. This is where you are going to be unique and make her melt....Rather than stating the OBVIOUS which every guy who hits on her is going to point out ( "you are beautiful") you are going to find other things to point out that are equally as flattering, yet have nothing to do with her looks. I don't care what it is - find something! And work it hard..:-) Trust me, she's going to pay A LOT more attention to a compliment she hasn't heard before, rather than the same stuff all the other boys are saying.
As always...There is so much more. But this is enough to get MOST beautiful women interested, and very intrigued. Start working on the above and you are going to see a very big change in the next few months, trust me....women you never believed would be coming home with YOU will. A

Monday, November 19, 2007

dealing with heartbreaks

The end of a relationship can be a very painful thing, whether it was a mutual decision, you initiated it, or your former boyfriend or girlfriend suggested you break up. You may have invested a great deal of yourself in that other person. You may have thought you were going to spend the rest of your lives together. You may find that you are losing not only a boyfriend or girlfriend, but someone you considered a best friend.
Grieving the Relationship
It is important to remember that the end of any relationship gives us cause to grieve. Breaking up with someone is like experiencing a death – the death of the relationship, of you being loved by that person, of your hopes and dreams for the future with that person. This sounds very bleak, and it is important to remember that it is also the start of new things for you. I say that breaking up is a death so you remember that it is okay to grieve.
Grieving is a process. You might feel fine one day. "Finally!" You think. "I am over her!" Then you hear "your song" on the radio, or your friends talk about her, or you find an old note from her...and you feel hurt and sad and even a little bitter all over again. Give yourself time. Permit yourself to cry if you need to cry. Do not, however, dwell in your misery – playing "your song" over and over again, or pulling out the old box of love letters every day.
Looking to the Future
The end of your relationship is also a new beginning. A new beginning for what? That is up to you! You have freedom that you may not have had before when in the relationship. Take a pottery class or get involved in a regional sports team. Meet and interact with new people. Reflect upon your relationship and ask yourself, "What have I learned from it?"
Take yourself out on dates! Discover the value of quiet, of being alone. You may even start a journal and find a favorite little cafe to go and sit and write for hours. Appreciate saying, "A table for one, please."
Avoid the Rubberband Effect
You've heard before of rebound relationships. I'll mention them again, because people continue to make this mistake time and time again. Do not bounce back into a relationship immediately after a break-up. It is a very vulnerable and emotional time for you. If you meet somebody that you're certain is Mr. or Ms. Right, wait! If they're right for you, then they'll be right for you four months down the road. You don't want to start a relationship with someone just because lonely and hurting. It isn't fair to them or to you. Enjoy the time alone and enjoy being yourself for a little while.
When the time is right, start dating again. And you will know when the time is right.

3 essential keys to planning a romantic date

Candlelight, flowers, and mood music are nice...but they do not necessarily a romantic date make. We at Romancetips spend a lot time offering suggestions for specific date ideas -- like taking him for a midnight picnic on the beach, or creating a "favorite things" date for her by making her favorite dinner and watching her favorite movie. However, we haven't offered much in the way of principles for romantic and fun dates. Until now, that is.In our tireless research and extensive dating research (going on hundreds of dates is hard work, let me tell you,) we've noticed five elements that the most romantic and successful dates always contain. And in our effort to make the world a more loving and romantic place, we've decided to let you in on them. 1. Surprise--The element of surprise is a very powerful tool. It shows foresight and planning, it says "I care enough about you to go to lengths to, well, surprise you." Women especially seem to relate surprise with romance. It doesn't need to be an elaborate scheme, either. For your next date try telling your sweetie to be ready at a certain time but do not tell them where you're going or what you'll be doing. Pick them up and blindfold them for the drive, then take them to a new spot -- perhaps a park or restaurant that has just opened. Tell your love that you found this spot and it made you long to surprise him/her with it.
2. Creativity-- Do you find your dating life or marriage falling into a rut of the "same old's?" Same old Friday night dinner and a movie date, same old lingerie, same old conversations? Creativity in your dating life keeps things fresh and passionate. When was the last time you did something silly on a date? Had a pillow fight or water war? Finger painted? Read poetry out loud? Dressed in strange clothing? If you've never done one of these things, try it on your next date. Better yet, combine two or more of these activities!
3. Interest-- Okay, this seems like a no-brainer, but for a successful date one or both of you need to be interested in the activity. Its best if both of you have a modicum of interest, but not absolutely necessary as long as the bored

Thursday, November 15, 2007

3 hot sex positions!!!

The "hottest" sex positions are the best sex positions and allow both you and your partner to experience the greatest pleasure and come to an orgasm. Seems obvious, right? But it’s amazing how many otherwise intelligent people totally miss this point.
Men are often guilty of wanting to perform the kind of athletic, acrobatic, frequently-changing "sex position" style of intercourse they see in their favorite porn thinking that a woman will be impressed by their stamina and creativity, while women are often guilty of going along with what the guy wants in hopes that he’s taken their pleasure into account as well. Hot Sex Positions vs. The Wrong Sex Positions
Unfortunately this doesn’t usually happen. Some men are totally clueless and think only of how to get to their own orgasm as quickly as possible, while others want to please their partners but erroneously think this means “performing well” by keeping their erection going as long as possible.
Neither works well because both have forgotten the golden key to great sex – and that’s great communication. And I’m not only going to lay the blame at men’s feet here, many women are still too shy and inhibited to speak up and tell the guy exactly what they need in order to feel pleasure and reach an orgasm during intercourse, often because they don’t really know.
With this in mind let’s take a look at the top three sex positions and look at how they can bring a woman greater pleasure. Men if you find that it’s difficult to keep your erection while bringing a woman to orgasm first (`cause unless you’re into tantric sex and know how to orgasm without ejaculating you’re not going to bring her to an orgasm via intercourse after you had one) than try bringing her close to an orgasm with your hand or orally first before beginning intercourse. `Woman on Top` Sex Position
If you read men’s magazines the favorite positions in polls (including for women) is “doggy style,” while in women’s magazine both men and women’s favorite position is “woman on top.” Since a large majority (60-85% depending on which poll you read) of women don’t orgasm from plain old intercourse alone I’m going to put the position that puts women in charge of what goes on first…and ladies you definitely need to step up to bat and learn how to be in the driver’s seat for this one.
Variations For Greater Pleasure
Some women don’t like to be “on top” because they feel the man gets to be too lazy and only has to lay back and watch the show. You can remedy this by having the man sit up against pillows so that it’s far easier to kiss and the woman can feel more engaged with the man. The woman really does need to set the pace with this position since she’s the one with the greatest range of motion possible. If she needs greater clitoral stimulation than this position normally gives her she should arch forward and do more of a grinding motion that thrusting so that her clitoris will be rubbing up against the man pubic bone. If she needs even more stimulation she should be brave and use her own fingers to stimulate herself while finding a rhythm that works for you both. The man can add even greater stimulation by caressing the sensitive undersides of her buttocks, or stroking her back door (make sure she’s well lubricated) or even inserting a finger into her anus (but ask permission first). `Doggy Style` Sex Position
Men love this position because, well, it’s easy as pie and it allows us to gaze at a woman’s sexual plumbing. For many women it’s a favorite position because it can be great for “G-spot” stimulation, however, for many women men can thrust too deep and actually hit a woman’s cervix, which some women enjoy, but many find extremely painful.
Variations For Greater Pleasure
The key to successful “doggy style” intercourse again is communication. Just as the head of a man’s penis is the most sensitive, the first third of a woman’s vagina is the most sensitive and the “G-spot” isn’t down deep at the back, it’s on the front wall about a third of the way down (though it varies woman to woman) so you need to communicate with your lover to find the right thrust that works for her.
Also, the “G-spot” often needs a lot of stimulation before it “wakes up” so you need to either go down on a woman first orally and make sure she’s either had an orgasm already, or is pretty darn close, or you need to reach your hand around and give her plenty of clitoral stimulation at the same time to make sure she’s enjoying things the way you are.
The problem man and women have with “doggy style” is that it feels very impersonal. To make her feel more connected try a couple variations on the theme such as rear entry while you’re both on your knees, or standing, in front of a mirror so that there’s plenty of eye contact and you both get the visual stimulation of seeing exactly what’s going on – and guys don’t be lazy, unless a woman tells you otherwise, reach your hand around and give her clitoris the stimulation it needs. `Missionary Style` Sex Position
Yes, the old standard is still a favorite for many couples because it’s one of the most intimate, but again this position only works for both parties with good communication.
Variations For Greater Pleasure
The CAT or coitus alignment technique is a way to make sure you’re lined up to give her clitoris the stimulation it needs to get its groove on. To get into position the man slides forward from his normal resting place so that the woman’s clitoris is receiving stimulation from the base of the man’s penis, also his legs should rest on the outside of her legs instead of the inside. Then rather than using a thrusting motion like you’d normally engage in the woman initiate a more gentle rocking motion, making sure her clitoris is getting the stimulation and contact it needs. The man should push down gently counter resisting the woman’s upward motion.

how to attract your lover!!!

You love him. You want him more than anything in the world. Now put your potions into practice and he'll be yours forever.
Timing: On the new moonDay: Thursday or Friday nightHour: 6pm, 9pm or midnight
You'll need:
A red candle (a taper is fine – not in glass) – and a candle-holder
parchment paper and pen
a sharp instrument to inscribe on the candle (such as a toothpick)
rose oil, jasmine oil, or some other pleasant floral scent of your choice
an ashtray, or some other flameproof container
Get started Begin by taking a bath. After you finish, dry off, but don’t get dressed. Prepare the red candle by inscribing on it your name, your birthdate, your sun sign, and/or any symbols you associate with yourself. If you have a secret name you use, inscribe that as well.
Next, take the parchment paper and the pen. Write all the qualities you want in a potential lover. For example: good listener, sexy, patient, dances well, etc. List whatever you want, but don’t write any one person’s name – you don’t have the right to impose your will on them. If they’re really are right for you, this spell will bring them to you. If not, this spell will bring the person who is.
After you’ve written the parchment, take the oil and use it to anoint the parchment on its corners, and over each quality you want. As you do this, say: “I call upon thee, Aphrodite and Venus, Goddesses of Love and Beauty, hear me! I ask you to send me a lover who is: (read your parchment) I ask you to send him to me, so that I may know true happiness in love! So Mote It Be!”
Now take the oil and anoint the candle, then anoint your wrists. Light the candle and as you do so, call out to the goddesses in your own words that you want this lover to come into your life.
As the candle burns, read your parchment over and over, several times – aloud or silently. Impress upon your mind these qualities you want in a lover. Also, feel your need for this lover, let your secret desires come and feel them. Send the energy of these desires to the candle and thus to the goddesses. You can dance to raise energy, or you can dance erotically to raise your own desires. You can also touch and please yourself this time, the way you imagine a lover might touch and please you. Do whatever you feel comfortable doing, and allow the candle to continue burning.
Finishing up When you’re ready to end the ritual, the last thing you should burn is the parchment paper describing the qualities you want in a lover. Read it over one last time, then consign it to the candle’s flame. Let it burn completely. The candle needs to be burned out completely, though you don’t have to stay with it the whole time – just ensure it can burn safely.
Take the ashes from the parchment when you’re finished and allow the wind to take them out of your hand, or scatter them in a moving river or stream. To finish the ritual, you should wear the oil you used every day until the full moon. And now be sure to be open to meeting new people, especially during the next two- to 12-week period. Don’t turn down invitations to parties, and don’t just sit at home waiting for someone to call you!

Monday, November 12, 2007

the G-spot!!!!

That Really Hit the G-spot!
Did you know that women could have more than one kind of orgasm? Yep, not only are the lucky creatures the owner of the only body part dedicated solely to arousal and sexual pleasure (the love button – aka the clitoris), and able to have multiple orgasms with no down time to recharge, women are also able to have several different types of orgasms from genital stimulation.
Let me break away here for a moment and note that both men and women have the capacity to experience full body orgasms (where men learn to orgasm throughout their entire body without ejaculating, meaning they don’t experience the “down” period of tiredness ejaculation brings on) but that will be the subject of a different article (don’t’ worry, I’m hot on the case doing research). G-spot And Orgasms
So back to girls and the different types of genital orgasms they can experience. Just about all-genital arousal for women starts with the clitoris; so ignore this magnificent bundle of nerves at your own peril. However, once a woman is fully aroused via clitoral stimulation, you can either add or switch (depending on the woman’s preference) to different types of genital stimulation for variations on the orgasmic bang.
Which brings us to the much wondered about “G-Spot.” While scientist and sexuality experts still
argue whether the spot actually exists, regular people are quietly (and not so quietly) going about seeking it out and all the pleasurable possibilities it can ignite in their love lives. Getting to the G-Spot
Okay, so let’s get down to the “G-Spot” basics. First off, the name comes from a Dr. Grafenberg who wrote about this special area of a woman’s anatomy back in the 1950’s - it’s not, however, necessarily a spot. On his website doctorg.org Dr. Gary Schubach, a sex educator and writer, quotes from Grafenberg’s originally published study in order to argue for the existence of the sensitive area and gives a very good explanation of what could be going on:
“Grafenberg does not refer to the G-spot as ‘a small but allegedly highly sensitive area on the anterior wall of the human vagina about a third of the way up from the vaginal opening,’ but to the ‘area’ or ‘zone’ on the upper wall of the vagina through which the prostate (aka Skene`s glands and ducts) can be accessed. In women, the prostate gland, while generally smaller than the male prostate, also surrounds the urethra, close to the urethral opening. The great sensitivity comes not from what is on the upper wall of the vagina, but from glands and ducts behind the vaginal wall.”
It’s very important to pay attention to the fact that the sensitive “G-zone” is apparently behind the vaginal wall as well as the fact that this area isn’t sensitive to stimulation unless a woman is already aroused.
So yes, your girl needs to be totally hot and bothered before you let your fingers do the walking to discovery because otherwise you’re going to come up (pardon the pun) dry. In fact, it’s best if she’s already had at least one orgasm before you go on your search just to make sure she’s totally ready. It’s also important to note that the “G-zone” often needs quite strong stimulation in order to trigger any pleasurable response. These two previous reasons, plus the tricky location, explain why the “G-zone” is so challenging for women to both find and trigger on their own.
It’s great to be needed! Triggering the G-Spot
So your gal is all hot and bothered, all wet and ready, and now you’re ready to venture forth and see what you can make happen. It’s a good idea to move forward with the idea of “finding pleasure zones in her vagina” rather than getting yourselves stuck on the idea that you will find the G-Spot and it will trigger such an amazing mind blowing orgasm that your gal will weep with the ecstasy of it all.
Don’t get me wrong, that would be a wonderful thing to make happen, but in my experience in dealing with this tricky area it’s more of a process of discovery rather than an immediate eureka! What I mean by this is that in the women who have learned to have orgasms triggered this way find the G-Spot often becomes more sensitive and able to trigger an orgasm over time and, well, use.
Think of it like a muscle, if it hasn’t been used in a long time, or ever, how effective is it going to be the first time it’s called to action?
And of course, it’s important to note that not all women are going to respond to stimulation in this area – and with some women you’re going to find a totally different area in her vagina that’s super sensitive to stimulation that you never new about before.
So it’s important to spend time discovering her magnificent cave and all that’s going on in there.
With this in mind, and with your woman all turned on, she needs to do two things before you can get down to business:
1) She needs to empty her bladder before you begin as you’re going to be stimulating an area close to her bladder and it often makes her feel like she needs to pee when first stimulated. If she’s nice and empty beforehand she won’t be worried about possible leaks. The G-Spot Needs Easy Access
2) She needs to be in a comfortable position, as do you, and of course one that allows you easy access to the G-Spot. Two good positions are in a big comfortable chair, facing you, with you sitting on the floor in front of her – this way you have access to her clit with your other hand, and your mouth. The second good position is with her lying on her stomach, hips elevated with a pillow, legs wide so you can have easy access to her – and again you might want to be sitting on the ground.
It’s important not to rush forward into fingering her, which might be the thing you’re so use to doing. Instead insert one or two fingers and gently but firmly press against the front wall of her vagina. Starting about an inch or so up start making “come here” motions with your fingers against her vagina, or if that doesn’t feel good to her, press firmly moving your way up. You’re looking for an area that is either swollen or a very different texture (one friend of mine said it felt like the ridges on the roof of your mouth just behind your front teeth). Once you hit this area try the come-hither motion, or pressing and rubbing, while at the same time giving her (or she can take charge of this) clitoral stimulation.
The goal is to try and transfer the pleasure from just clitoral stimulation to a combo of clitoral and G-Spot stimulation. This is why it’s a good reason to have her handle her clitoris herself, as she feels new pleasurable sensations in her G-Spot she can back off her clitoris and enjoy what you’re doing…but it’ll be give and take. Remember this is a learning process – but one that will definitely be worth it!

sexology 101

You likely know that men get turned on by visiual stimuli. What you may not know is how much you can amp up your guy's plasure by exploting his craving for eye candy. The link between what men see and sexual arousal is an evolutionary holdover from prehistorisc times, when the first guy to spot an available, responsive female was the one who got to mate with her.
Thankfully, courtship has progressed since then, but men still repond primally to an optical thrill. Use that fact to eroticize your encounters at anytime from foreplay to the main thing with tese tantalizing tips and please leave the lights on!!

BEFORE THE BEDROOM
*Flash him a glimpse of you in bra and panties in the morning when his testorone is at its peak.
*Seductively lick a dab of food off your lips or finger. He'll imagine what your toungue would feel like on him.
*Draw attention to your sexiest parts with jewellry,like a pendant that grazes your cleaveage or a belly ring to bring his gaze down south
*Get undressed in another room, but stay in his line of sight. He'll feel like sneaking a peek at you stripping down

DURING FOREPLAY
*Prop a mirror in front of your bed, sit you guy down, straddle him, then start making out. Watching the action plus the intoxicating site of you would spike his lust.
*Grab his hand and guide it to your hot spots, leaving an arm's length between you so he can see your body and face as your arousal increases
*Get into the 69 position, lying on your sides, then encourage him just to rest his head on you inner thigh and enjoy the scenery

DURING THE DEED
*Keep on a piece of clothing like a skirt or a pair of super high heels to give your interlude a couldn't-wait-to-get-it-on urgency
*As you are bobbing up and down on top, rub your hands all over your torso, squezing your breasts togehther to create a super cleavage.
*On top, turn around and face his feet, brace yourself with your havds, then arch your spine and drop your head back letting your hair spill acrosss his chest. slimmer chicks might get so far that they may make eye contact with him upside down. Now that is an image he'll never forget.....or want to

Sunday, November 11, 2007

MOVING ON

When we suffer heart breaks or disappointments in relationships, it takes a lot of strength to pull ourselves through. Most times, we go on brooding over what happened and blame ourselves for yet another breakup. The pain is most felt when our partner elopes without giving us any concrete reason. We ask ourselves why, when and how? We tend to believe that we did not play our roles as lovers very well.
Agrees, getting over a failed relationship is and arduous task given the fact that we may have tailored our life patterns and gotten so used to our partners that we suddenly find ourselves lonely and empty. This makes us to not come to terms with the reality of the breakup so, as we believe it may still be a mirage or wait for a miracle to happen.
So what do you do when faced with a breakup? It’s imperative that we find the inner strength to forget the past and move on with or lives. The world is still full of exciting people waiting to meet us so why brood over one person? There are also people who still appreciate us like old pals and colleagues. These people knowingly on otherwise make us realize our positive attributes. You can also do those things that you missed while in the relationship like hanging out with the girls, clubbing,. flirting e.t.c
You can also learn new skills like a new language, cooking that special recipe or enrolling for a new course. The basic thing is that you should improve on you self image. Read self-help books, get a new wardrobe and change your looks. Most importantly change your mindset and see the positive things that life holds for you. Take what has happened as a blessing in disguise. Have you not heard every dark cloud has a silver lining? So why should we allow one fellow to rob us of the beauty of life? Simply move on with you life!!!