is dating a co-worker ok??

In our days more and more people decide to start a relationship with a co-worker. The reason why this happens is that many young professional men and women are spending almost all their time at the office, so they have less time to go out and meet new people. So, it is natural to seek friendship and companionship from colleagues.
But for many times, this friendship transform into a relationship that in most of the cases fail. There are many risks that make this very difficult to maintain. But not many people know about this before they start a relationship. So, if you are a very busy man too and spend all your time in an office, and decided to date with a co-worker, you should take a closer look at all the potential benefits and disasters that could be associated with this new career move.
There are some aspects that you should take in consideration:
-Before you ask your co-worker for a possible date, check if your company has an employee dating policy; the company may have strict rules about any relationship that forum between you two; also think about how much you are wiling to risk your career for this relationship from the beginning
-If you didn't ask her for a date already, and don't know how to do it, you may organize a group outing or event and invite her; but if she refuse, you have to think at something else; suggest something casual like dinner or movie
-Before ask her for a date, make sure that you know as much as you can about her; so develop an office relationship before you develop a romantic one
-You must think about what happens if your relationship doesn't work; will you be able to handle the situation to see your co-worker every day, to interact her daily? It may be very difficult to re-establish a professional demeanor with a person -At final one of you have to leave this job because thing's don't work out or because it's against the company policy to date fellow employees
-Or worst, you don't know what your partner is capable to do if things don't work between you two, it may be ruining your career
-Dating a co-worker can affect your work, if you are unable to differentiate between work and pleasure; so agree to not flirt at work, you have to set up relationship rules for the workplace
-Avoid signs of affection in public such as hand holding, kisses, flirting; you'd better meet off-site for lunch or after program hours
-It is true that you have a lot in common, that you will go with pleasure every morning at the office anxious to see her, and it is a person with who you will always have what to speak about;
-You have someone to confide in concerning your work problems; she may be a great help; but, there are more negatives aspects about this kinds of relationships
-Remember that you have to maintain a professional image, so don't let your relationship affect your performance; if your romance is affecting your work, you may be asked to end your relationship or to find another job
-A relationship like this can create problems in your promotion; the boss may see that you are more preoccupied by your partner than your work
-Develop open communication, if you are dating with a co-worker think about the fact that you have to have two different types of relationships, business and romantic, with the same person;
-Never date with a subordinate because you may be accused for favoritism by the others employers; the others co-workers will exclude you now from certain conversations, will not discuss anymore with you about privacy
-If you spend more and more time with her during the office hours, the more and more you will distance yourself from your associates, those you've developed personal relationships with;
-If you start a relationship with a co-worker it is better to keep it secret; it will need a lot of discretion, energy and effort to keep your office romance just between you two; so don't tell your colleagues about your romance because your both work will be definitely affected
-Also avoid sending electronic love messages or letters because some companies prohibit the use of company e-mails system for personal use, others reserves the right to access or disclose electronic messages or files of an employee
-As a benefit, you get to have lunch together; so from a usual boring office lunch, you can have part of one full of flirting
As you see there are some benefits but most of them are downsides. I suggest you to think very well if you really want to get into a relationship that may affect your career and if you are ready to do this. As I said, it may be very difficult to make it work. But, it remains at your choice what you are going to do.

how to hve anals

-->It is time to explore what I consider the second greatest sexual gift a woman can give you.
This particular gift or act is not just a gift she is giving you, but a gift she also bestows on herself. I am referring to "her first anal sex".
Whether it is her first anal sex or just your first time with "her", there are anal sex tips that can help you both arrive at the technique that is most pleasurable for her. Trust me gentlemen, if she is happy you will be too.
Though this is not an anal sex guide, I will attempt to guide you toward sexual fruition. First, it must be established if she even wants to explore any anal sex position. This can be established during foreplay or cunnilingus.
While either kissing her or licking her vagina, explore her anus with your fingertip. I like the forefinger because you have the most prehensile control. Be conservative and listen to for "audible" confirmation.
Moaning means she likes it, sounds of pain or a hand grab means back off.
After you have established either verbally or physically that she wants to try anal then remember that it is very important to go slow. Do not approach this like jackhammer vagina sex because it isn`t. Vaginal sex is as much about the clitoris as it is the hole. Anal sex is all about "hitting that spot" down deep. Her little "one way street" is not used to your big schlong powering down as if you`re driving the last nail of your life. So make sure you have all the right tools for the romp.
Durable condoms are highly recommended here. I can not preach safe sex enough. Even if you are with your life partner, you are susceptible to various bacteria that could can cause painful urinary tract infections if protection is not used. There are even far worse venereal diseases out there so be sure you have condoms that are durable from a reliable company.
Don`t get "spermicide" condoms because they can sting and you can not get her butt pregnant anyway. Buy lubricated condoms (not ribbed!) and most importantly buy good lubricant. There are many stores that sell various lubricant products, don`t be shy, and go ask the salesperson which is the most like "her" natural fluid or moisture.
Make sure that stick is ultra slick before she rides.
Some girls are into hardcore anal sex. Though it is not recommended by doctors to "mix fluids", some women during the act (while she is on top) will literally pull the penis out of their vagina and immediately stick it right in their ass. These girls are hardcore and know what they want and literally want to sit on it and might not even tell you they are going to do it.
Another example of hardcore anal sex is when the girl you date has anal sex toys. These anal sex toys can teach you what she likes at the same time. If her toy is a double headed dildo for the vagina and the anus but the anus one is much smaller, then that is a clue that she does not want the whole kit and caboodle in her ass, just a little to drive her crazy. Some girls like arse play (ass play) but not full blown anal sex. Rock of Ages
Some women, usually older or women near menopause, suffer from vaginal dryness. This can happen for various reasons and even all the lubricant in the world won`t help. The walls of the vaginal cavity are tender mucous membranes that require "natural" lubrication or they can break down and cause fissures and subsequent discomfort.
For this reason anal sex can be a logical alternative. Pregnant women experience a literal rainbow of emotional and physical sensations, most certainly near their last trimester.
Sometimes anal sex might be more comfortable for her during pregnancy, and sometimes men don`t want to have vaginal sex during pregnancy, and want her tight bottom.
The other end of the spectrum is the "teen scene". Don`t be surprised by how many young girls have explored their body already and crave anal sex. Personally I am not into teen age girls, but the idea of a hot 18 year old girl who likes it in the ass does sound erotic and sexy. I highly recommend checking for identification because anal sex with a teen is not only statutory rape, but sodomy as well. Be good!
If your girl knows what she is doing, then she will lead the way. Tell her that you want to and have your tools ready. When she is ready she will tell you and guide you literally by putting herself in her favorite anal sex position and use her hands to guide it.
Most women like it from behind when having anal sex. Some women like to lay completely flat on their stomach and others like be on all fours.
Then there is the missionary anal sex position. She is flat on her back and her legs are pulled back and spread apart. Only a real pro can take this position because big daddy has the power to drive it deep this way. Anal Recap
Have female friendly lubricant and durable condoms near the bed. Get her in the mood with your fingertips. Cover and lube the unit and then gently... very gently push the tip of your penis between her cheeks, but don`t penetrate her.
She will probably tell you at this point what she wants (slower, deeper, etc). She will more than likely take your penis in her hand and guide it in at her own pace herself. SLOWLY stroke her, sliding in and out very patiently and methodically until she loosens up or starts doing the work with her hips. Once she has taken you completely and loosened up a bit just follow her lead.
Remember this is more for you than it is for her (in general), unless of course you make her have an orgasm. If you can give your girl an orgasm from anal sex then you are the king

female orgasm

So many readers have written about their girlfriend/lover’s being non-orgasmic that I’ve decided to dedicate the next two weeks articles to the topic. While nature has given females the wonderful ability of multiple orgasms (with hardly a refractory period in between), it has also made the female orgasm often a very illusive beast. The challenge to help coax it out of a woman isn’t for the faint of heart. Female Orgasm And Better Sex (Way Better Sex)
As always, the most important key to creating a better sex life is honest communication between you and your lover. If you can have real, frank conversations about this topic then you’re well on your way to being able to solve the problem. The first thing you need to find out is what are the road blocks standing in the way. Here are some questions you need to ask her:
1) Can she bring herself to an orgasm on her own via masturbation?
2) Does she have beliefs about sex that make her feel shameful or dirty participating in it with you?
3) Is she taking any anti-depressants? Unfortunately they can have an incredibly dampening effect on both a person’s libido and the ability to orgasm. So can a variety of medical problems.
4) Is their any history of sexual abuse in her background that might make her shut down to sex just when you start getting intimate?
5) Does she understand that women need and enjoy orgasms as much as men, and that if she continues to not have them during your lovemaking she may end up feeling very resentful and even begin creating reasons to not have sex? Female Orgasm And Masturbation
1) The Importance of Female Masturbation
If a woman can bring herself to orgasm via masturbation she’s already won half the battle. Understand that men don’t “give” orgasms to women; they can only help them achieve them. In order to orgasm a woman has to both be in the right frame of mind and receive the right stimulation. If she can masturbate to an orgasm by herself she’s figured out both of these actions, and now she just needs to open up and share it all with you.
That, however, can be easier said than done. Many women still feel masturbating, especially for women, is still taboo. If this is an issue for your lover you need to let her know that you can’t figure out how to push all the right “bells & whistles” if she can’t tell you where they are. You are a man, a great man, but you’re not a mind reader. Each woman is unique, the sort of touch, stroke, caress, etc. that drives one woman wild can drive another one crazy – with annoyance!
Ideally she should practice masturbating on her own and then share with you what she’s learned – this isn’t because I want you to be left out, it’s because learning how to orgasm for some women can take a very long time! You, however, can play a key role in helping her get into that right “sexy” frame of mind. Remember, the brain is the biggest sex organ. You can help get your lover ready to let her “fingers do the walking” with a steamy phone conversation just before she begins, or even during. The sexy sound of your voice may be just the thing to get things moving in the right direction. Make sure to lay the compliments on thick! Tell her how beautiful you find her, and how amazingly sexy the idea of what she’s doing is for you. Also let her know how thrilling it would be for you to be able to watch her in person, how much you would love every sight, sound, taste and smell. In this way she’ll start getting use to the idea of “showing” you how it all works for her.
Please note orgasms are like muscles, if you haven’t learned how to use them they take awhile to get condition. Do your best to be patient and supportive of her progress. The rewards will be worth it! 2) Overcoming Shame About Sex
We still live in a world of double standards in regards to men, women and sex. If your lover has been raised to believe sex is a sin then you really have some serious conversations ahead of you. Some women feel that it’s okay to have sex so long as they’re “passive” about it, as long as they just let it be “done” to them.
For some men this is just fine, but as I pointed out, when a woman isn’t truly enjoying sex (and that usually includes orgasms for her as well) she’ll find all kinds of reasons not to participate in it. Ideally you want an active female participant who isn’t going to leave you with all the responsibility for everyone’s pleasure. Passive might seem just fine in the beginning, but sooner or later you’re going to get bored.
If she won’t honestly look at her beliefs and how they’re harming your sex life together, you may want to reconsider the relationship. I don’t mean to sound harsh, but some people just aren’t going to change religious beliefs they’ve had their whole lives. 3) If She’s Taking Anti-Depressants
Anti-Depressants can be a big challenge. They are very serious medicine and often have nasty side effects. If your lover is on an anti-depressant and that seems to be the reason she can’t orgasm (like say, she was able to in the past but can’t now) than she has a few choices – but all involve her doctor.
She needs to be frank with the doctor about what’s happening and ask if a) she can go on a lower dosage or b) perhaps try a type that doesn’t have such serious sexual side effects. Again you’ll both need to be patient because most of these drugs cannot be stopped cold turkey without serious and sometimes harmful side effects. Dealing with anti-depressants should always be in cooperation with a medical doctor. 4) Is There Abuse In Her Past?
Sad but true many of us have been sexually abused as children. If this is the case with your lover she needs to seriously consider getting the appropriate counseling. Of course you can talk with her about it, but you’re not qualified to work through her trauma with her. Understand that this is beyond your powers to heal. She needs to see a professional, but certainly your love and support will be needed as well. 5) Her Belief About the Female Orgasm
There is still the idea out there that female orgasms aren’t, and shouldn’t be, as important to women as to men. That idea has led us to miscommunication for years and years and huge numbers of women claiming to have a headache rather than face sex with a man. No, a woman doesn’t always have to orgasm from sex, but then neither does a man. There are times when you can have a tremendously erotic experience from just pleasing your partner, or perhaps, just from foreplay where neither party “gets off”.
The important point here is that you both recognize that her orgasms are as important as yours. True, hers might take longer to bring about, but that doesn’t mean she should get the short end of the stick as far as receiving them.

how to tell your partner is enjoying sex

It's hard to figure out whether your lover is truly enjoying sex with you or not. Well if you were to be direct and ask them than they might say they're loving it only to make you feel good and happy but the insider facts would never be known to you. You never know what's going on in the persons mind and how they are feeling. So you see there isn't a perfect answer or a surefire way to tell but there are signs which are guaranteed to prove whether your lover is enjoying sex with you or not. Read on to discover what these signs are and figure out whether your lover is enjoying sex with you or not.
See the intensity of passion- If your lover is truly enjoying having sex with you he or she would do it with more passion and it would always be intense. It's common human nature that whenever we tend to enjoy something we do it with greater passion and intensity. But if your partner lacks that fired passion and willingness in bed than you are doing something wrong for sure and you need to work on it before it too late.
Can you communicate without speaking? - This means that you don't need to verbally ask your lover what he or she wants rather you are very much in tune and know what he or she wants and you do exactly that. You see if these are your circumstances than you and your lover are sexually very much in tune with each other and there wouldn't be many problems with satisfying your partner in bed.
Does he or she want more? - Well again it's common human nature that when you like or enjoy something you want more and more of it. This same formula applies to sex, if your lover truly enjoys it and likes it than he or she would be constantly willing to get more and more of it from you. In case he or she does not tell or ask you for more there body language will easily tell you that they want more from you as they were enjoying it.
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bed room essentials

Researches found that couples with a television in their bedroom have less sex. So if you want a simple way of increasing your lovemaking get rid of the TV and replace it with a fireplace. Or get a fireplace DVD to watch as a hypnotic stress reducer and set a cozy mood. This way, if you're "lucky" your TV may just be a "boob" tube.
A famous home decorating personality was asked "what is the best kind of lighting to have when entertaining?" She responded by saying candlelight. She said something like, "It hides the dust and imperfections you may have in your home. Besides, everything looks better and more festive in candlelight."
The same could be said for intimate encounters, everything looks better in candlelight and it hides imperfections you may feel self conscious about. Make sure you have plenty of candles and a candle lighter in your bedroom.
A cold room may make a woman's nipples stand out as if aroused, but it can be like a cold shower on the mood. A cold nose and cold feet are not sexy. And blankets can get in the way of frolic. Make sure your love space is a nice place to be naked. Keep a small quiet space heater in your bedroom to warm your toes and your nose. If passion gets the room too hot, you can always turn off the space heater, but don't let a cold room be a turn off to passion. Place the space heater near your TV fireplace for faux fire heat effect.
Plan for the infamous wet spot. There are blankets made just for this purpose or make your own by using an inexpensive shower curtain covered with a soft throw blanket. You can even place a couple of layers of towels on top the shower curtain before covering with the throw blanket if needed because of the possibility of large amounts of fluid being released during your activities. When you're ready for sleep just fold up your sex blanket and set aside.
Don't forget the sex furniture. This can be anything from several inexpensive standard sized pillows covered with washable covers (use various prints and colors to give the pillows a romantic flare) to specialized foam furniture made just for sex. Using sex furniture or pillows can go a long way to making new positions easier to try and more comfortable and enjoyable.
Speaking of sex furniture, adding a leather Parsons chair and a leather bench to your room's décor can spice up your sex life. They are great for off the bed activities and open up many great new positions. Leather warms up quickly when exposed to a naked body and wipes clean with a damp clothe. And you don't have to worry about hiding them under the bed or in a closet.
Hand towels or wash clothes kept nearby come in handy for wiping up any spills. Forget using moistened towelettes, they just smear stuff around. Get a supply to use just for sex and matches your room's décor. Keep them in the nightstand drawer or folded nicely on top, dressed up with a napkin ring.
You can buy special "toy cleaner" but all you need is a container of hand sanitizer. Keep it with your "adult toys" and use after each toy session to keep them germ free.
If you have a lamp near your bed, consider replacing the bulb with a black light. Black light goes well with candlelight and there is something about black light that enhances the beauty of skin color. Also, with a black light nearby you can have fun writing sexy notes or explicit instructions on your skin with an ultraviolet marker that will light up under the black light.
Add these bedroom sex essentials to create a cozy comfortable love nest and enjoy more frequent love making.

art of seduction

Understanding what a woman is looking for in a man is the first secret to seducing a woman. For many men, the concept of how to seduce a woman is simply a mystery. It's understandable, though. Men and women differ in so many ways that it's difficult for many of us to really grasp how to get inside the mind of the opposite sex.
The true key to seducing a woman isn't a mere laundry list to check off, step by step. It's more a guidebook on the path you must follow to completely seduce a woman, mind, body and soul. And believe it or not, what really gets a woman going is much simpler than you may have ever imagined.
Understanding the differences between the sexes will help give you a better foundation on which to build your knowledge of women. Once you can get inside her mind, it's all downhill from there.
Communication is ultimately the most important aspect in seducing a woman. Like so many other aspects of our lives, effective communication is the key to success. You want to take the time to really get to know her and what she's looking for. This will benefit you greatly when it comes to pleasing her, so don't think that getting to know your woman is a pointless, grueling task of learning a bunch of useless information.
Patience when seducing your woman is equally important, too. Being in a hurry will only prove to damage any good you could've done by learning anything at all about your woman. When it comes to seducing a woman, take it slow. We want a man to take his time, not just rush in for the brass ring. A woman wants to know that you aren't just playing her for sex. And the best way to prove yourself is to take your time.
All in all, women want to feel special. Being romantic makes us feel special. So if you want to seduce your woman you have to be romantic. It proves that you care, that you want to please her and that you know how to treat a woman right. Romance will take you a long way in seducing a woman.

online blind dating

OK so you've been doing the Online dating thing for a while, you've posted your profile, and you've sent out a few winks, you've made a connection. Great. You've been e-mailing back and forth and now think, OK this is a person a may want to meet. What now?
There are several things to keep in mind while planning that first meeting with someone you have met online. While Online matchmaking especially when using a well-respected service like True or Match.com, is generally considered safe; there are still some precautions you should take to ensure not only that you have a great date, but your personal safety. And don't think that it us only women that need to be concerned about safety issues and online dating. Cyberspace is a breeding ground for scammers and con-artists of both sexes. There has been many a guy who has been taken for a ride literally and figuratively, by an unscrupulous "Fem Fatale" they met online. Ideally, being able to talk face-to-face via webcam such as using online speed dating and blind date service provided by 15minuteDate.com will weed out predators and encourage members to be more realistic about who they are.
As we talk about safety issues, please don't get the impression that the Online matchmaking world is filled with vampires or other unsavory types looking for a bite or worse - seriously; most of the time you will be taking precautions that turn out to be unnecessary but it always sensible to err on the side of caution. Before considering meeting in person the next step should be to exchange phone numbers, if someone is hesitant about giving you their number, refuses or will only give you a work number, you should think twice about meeting this person. On the other hand be cautious about giving your home number, because it is possible for people to do reverse searches and find your address from you phone number, for this reason it may be better to only give your cell number. Talk a few times on the phone -see if the connection you thought was there follows in open conversation as it was in text and e-mails. After a few phone conversations you should be able to tell if this person does not "sound" like the type of person you thought they were when you were communicating online. If something doesn't feel right to you, go with your guts and move on, but if you feel that this is someone you really want to meet, set up the meeting, after all while having online relationships can be a fun social interaction, meeting someone and possibly forming a real relationship is what most of us signed up for.
It is absolutely normal to feel nervous about meeting for the first time, but remember relax; this is not a 100% "blind date" since you already know this person - to a point. Still, definitely set up the meeting in a public place. There is very little chance that something untoward can happen in a public restaurant or café. If it does turn out that the person was not what you expected, you can always leave securely from a public place. As will most likely be the case, if all goes well you can select a somewhat more intimate setting for the next meeting. A partner that is looking for the same kind of relationship that you are will respect your desire to move things along slowly.
While it is unlikely that anything unpleasant will occur - you can wind up just having a bad date. Not to worry, if you meet IRL and do not connect, there is no shame - you still have your membership and your profile up and working, and there will likely be dozens of other e-mails in you inbox to respond to when you get home - and one of them may just be the love of your life. It is just like a speed dating session. In speed dating you just keep moving to the next person and eventually you find the one you are looking for. That is the great thing about Online Dating. And now you already have taken the first step in knowing how to deal with moving from online dating to the real world, so the next IRL date with the next person will be that much easier. On the other hand, if it goes great - congratulations! You can now be excited and relieved that all the time you took to make sure this person was everything you hoped they'd be has paid off.