love really hurts

Let us make no mistake love can sometimes hurt and hurt badly. This hurt can cause us all types of feelings of pain and dismay as we try and cope with the feelings of pain that stop us in our tracks. What causes us pain and where does it come from?
Pain is a feeling that comes from rejection. When someone hurts us to the point that we feel reject immediately we begin to feel pain. In the end this pain can either turn into grief or it can turn into anger. In either of these forms it can be difficult to get over.
The anger of grief that we feel continues to gnaw at our psyche because it is not something we are able to rectify in our own minds. We have questions and the thoughts invade our heads simply because we are attempting to discover the reason why we are rejected.
The more gruesome and bold the rejection the more likely it is going to cause us pain. For example, if we have a good relationship with someone and we catch them cheating on us we begin to wonder what went wrong. Obviously if we cheated on them many times and find that their action was to punish us we wouldn't feel nearly as angry as if it was unprovoked.
Until we get an answer or are able to file away the incident it will consume our efforts. In many cases we may not actually be able to sleep because we keep thinking about what has happened or why it has happened. Weaving a good story can help us.
The next time that you are so completely damaged understand the nature of the feelings of rejection and the reason why we keep questioning. We are better able to put the issue to rest if we can find a reason or weave a believable story. It might be mind tricks but it sure does help (most of us simply blame the other people