is dating a co-worker ok??

In our days more and more people decide to start a relationship with a co-worker. The reason why this happens is that many young professional men and women are spending almost all their time at the office, so they have less time to go out and meet new people. So, it is natural to seek friendship and companionship from colleagues.
But for many times, this friendship transform into a relationship that in most of the cases fail. There are many risks that make this very difficult to maintain. But not many people know about this before they start a relationship. So, if you are a very busy man too and spend all your time in an office, and decided to date with a co-worker, you should take a closer look at all the potential benefits and disasters that could be associated with this new career move.
There are some aspects that you should take in consideration:
-Before you ask your co-worker for a possible date, check if your company has an employee dating policy; the company may have strict rules about any relationship that forum between you two; also think about how much you are wiling to risk your career for this relationship from the beginning
-If you didn't ask her for a date already, and don't know how to do it, you may organize a group outing or event and invite her; but if she refuse, you have to think at something else; suggest something casual like dinner or movie
-Before ask her for a date, make sure that you know as much as you can about her; so develop an office relationship before you develop a romantic one
-You must think about what happens if your relationship doesn't work; will you be able to handle the situation to see your co-worker every day, to interact her daily? It may be very difficult to re-establish a professional demeanor with a person -At final one of you have to leave this job because thing's don't work out or because it's against the company policy to date fellow employees
-Or worst, you don't know what your partner is capable to do if things don't work between you two, it may be ruining your career
-Dating a co-worker can affect your work, if you are unable to differentiate between work and pleasure; so agree to not flirt at work, you have to set up relationship rules for the workplace
-Avoid signs of affection in public such as hand holding, kisses, flirting; you'd better meet off-site for lunch or after program hours
-It is true that you have a lot in common, that you will go with pleasure every morning at the office anxious to see her, and it is a person with who you will always have what to speak about;
-You have someone to confide in concerning your work problems; she may be a great help; but, there are more negatives aspects about this kinds of relationships
-Remember that you have to maintain a professional image, so don't let your relationship affect your performance; if your romance is affecting your work, you may be asked to end your relationship or to find another job
-A relationship like this can create problems in your promotion; the boss may see that you are more preoccupied by your partner than your work
-Develop open communication, if you are dating with a co-worker think about the fact that you have to have two different types of relationships, business and romantic, with the same person;
-Never date with a subordinate because you may be accused for favoritism by the others employers; the others co-workers will exclude you now from certain conversations, will not discuss anymore with you about privacy
-If you spend more and more time with her during the office hours, the more and more you will distance yourself from your associates, those you've developed personal relationships with;
-If you start a relationship with a co-worker it is better to keep it secret; it will need a lot of discretion, energy and effort to keep your office romance just between you two; so don't tell your colleagues about your romance because your both work will be definitely affected
-Also avoid sending electronic love messages or letters because some companies prohibit the use of company e-mails system for personal use, others reserves the right to access or disclose electronic messages or files of an employee
-As a benefit, you get to have lunch together; so from a usual boring office lunch, you can have part of one full of flirting
As you see there are some benefits but most of them are downsides. I suggest you to think very well if you really want to get into a relationship that may affect your career and if you are ready to do this. As I said, it may be very difficult to make it work. But, it remains at your choice what you are going to do.

how to hve anals

-->It is time to explore what I consider the second greatest sexual gift a woman can give you.
This particular gift or act is not just a gift she is giving you, but a gift she also bestows on herself. I am referring to "her first anal sex".
Whether it is her first anal sex or just your first time with "her", there are anal sex tips that can help you both arrive at the technique that is most pleasurable for her. Trust me gentlemen, if she is happy you will be too.
Though this is not an anal sex guide, I will attempt to guide you toward sexual fruition. First, it must be established if she even wants to explore any anal sex position. This can be established during foreplay or cunnilingus.
While either kissing her or licking her vagina, explore her anus with your fingertip. I like the forefinger because you have the most prehensile control. Be conservative and listen to for "audible" confirmation.
Moaning means she likes it, sounds of pain or a hand grab means back off.
After you have established either verbally or physically that she wants to try anal then remember that it is very important to go slow. Do not approach this like jackhammer vagina sex because it isn`t. Vaginal sex is as much about the clitoris as it is the hole. Anal sex is all about "hitting that spot" down deep. Her little "one way street" is not used to your big schlong powering down as if you`re driving the last nail of your life. So make sure you have all the right tools for the romp.
Durable condoms are highly recommended here. I can not preach safe sex enough. Even if you are with your life partner, you are susceptible to various bacteria that could can cause painful urinary tract infections if protection is not used. There are even far worse venereal diseases out there so be sure you have condoms that are durable from a reliable company.
Don`t get "spermicide" condoms because they can sting and you can not get her butt pregnant anyway. Buy lubricated condoms (not ribbed!) and most importantly buy good lubricant. There are many stores that sell various lubricant products, don`t be shy, and go ask the salesperson which is the most like "her" natural fluid or moisture.
Make sure that stick is ultra slick before she rides.
Some girls are into hardcore anal sex. Though it is not recommended by doctors to "mix fluids", some women during the act (while she is on top) will literally pull the penis out of their vagina and immediately stick it right in their ass. These girls are hardcore and know what they want and literally want to sit on it and might not even tell you they are going to do it.
Another example of hardcore anal sex is when the girl you date has anal sex toys. These anal sex toys can teach you what she likes at the same time. If her toy is a double headed dildo for the vagina and the anus but the anus one is much smaller, then that is a clue that she does not want the whole kit and caboodle in her ass, just a little to drive her crazy. Some girls like arse play (ass play) but not full blown anal sex. Rock of Ages
Some women, usually older or women near menopause, suffer from vaginal dryness. This can happen for various reasons and even all the lubricant in the world won`t help. The walls of the vaginal cavity are tender mucous membranes that require "natural" lubrication or they can break down and cause fissures and subsequent discomfort.
For this reason anal sex can be a logical alternative. Pregnant women experience a literal rainbow of emotional and physical sensations, most certainly near their last trimester.
Sometimes anal sex might be more comfortable for her during pregnancy, and sometimes men don`t want to have vaginal sex during pregnancy, and want her tight bottom.
The other end of the spectrum is the "teen scene". Don`t be surprised by how many young girls have explored their body already and crave anal sex. Personally I am not into teen age girls, but the idea of a hot 18 year old girl who likes it in the ass does sound erotic and sexy. I highly recommend checking for identification because anal sex with a teen is not only statutory rape, but sodomy as well. Be good!
If your girl knows what she is doing, then she will lead the way. Tell her that you want to and have your tools ready. When she is ready she will tell you and guide you literally by putting herself in her favorite anal sex position and use her hands to guide it.
Most women like it from behind when having anal sex. Some women like to lay completely flat on their stomach and others like be on all fours.
Then there is the missionary anal sex position. She is flat on her back and her legs are pulled back and spread apart. Only a real pro can take this position because big daddy has the power to drive it deep this way. Anal Recap
Have female friendly lubricant and durable condoms near the bed. Get her in the mood with your fingertips. Cover and lube the unit and then gently... very gently push the tip of your penis between her cheeks, but don`t penetrate her.
She will probably tell you at this point what she wants (slower, deeper, etc). She will more than likely take your penis in her hand and guide it in at her own pace herself. SLOWLY stroke her, sliding in and out very patiently and methodically until she loosens up or starts doing the work with her hips. Once she has taken you completely and loosened up a bit just follow her lead.
Remember this is more for you than it is for her (in general), unless of course you make her have an orgasm. If you can give your girl an orgasm from anal sex then you are the king

female orgasm

So many readers have written about their girlfriend/lover’s being non-orgasmic that I’ve decided to dedicate the next two weeks articles to the topic. While nature has given females the wonderful ability of multiple orgasms (with hardly a refractory period in between), it has also made the female orgasm often a very illusive beast. The challenge to help coax it out of a woman isn’t for the faint of heart. Female Orgasm And Better Sex (Way Better Sex)
As always, the most important key to creating a better sex life is honest communication between you and your lover. If you can have real, frank conversations about this topic then you’re well on your way to being able to solve the problem. The first thing you need to find out is what are the road blocks standing in the way. Here are some questions you need to ask her:
1) Can she bring herself to an orgasm on her own via masturbation?
2) Does she have beliefs about sex that make her feel shameful or dirty participating in it with you?
3) Is she taking any anti-depressants? Unfortunately they can have an incredibly dampening effect on both a person’s libido and the ability to orgasm. So can a variety of medical problems.
4) Is their any history of sexual abuse in her background that might make her shut down to sex just when you start getting intimate?
5) Does she understand that women need and enjoy orgasms as much as men, and that if she continues to not have them during your lovemaking she may end up feeling very resentful and even begin creating reasons to not have sex? Female Orgasm And Masturbation
1) The Importance of Female Masturbation
If a woman can bring herself to orgasm via masturbation she’s already won half the battle. Understand that men don’t “give” orgasms to women; they can only help them achieve them. In order to orgasm a woman has to both be in the right frame of mind and receive the right stimulation. If she can masturbate to an orgasm by herself she’s figured out both of these actions, and now she just needs to open up and share it all with you.
That, however, can be easier said than done. Many women still feel masturbating, especially for women, is still taboo. If this is an issue for your lover you need to let her know that you can’t figure out how to push all the right “bells & whistles” if she can’t tell you where they are. You are a man, a great man, but you’re not a mind reader. Each woman is unique, the sort of touch, stroke, caress, etc. that drives one woman wild can drive another one crazy – with annoyance!
Ideally she should practice masturbating on her own and then share with you what she’s learned – this isn’t because I want you to be left out, it’s because learning how to orgasm for some women can take a very long time! You, however, can play a key role in helping her get into that right “sexy” frame of mind. Remember, the brain is the biggest sex organ. You can help get your lover ready to let her “fingers do the walking” with a steamy phone conversation just before she begins, or even during. The sexy sound of your voice may be just the thing to get things moving in the right direction. Make sure to lay the compliments on thick! Tell her how beautiful you find her, and how amazingly sexy the idea of what she’s doing is for you. Also let her know how thrilling it would be for you to be able to watch her in person, how much you would love every sight, sound, taste and smell. In this way she’ll start getting use to the idea of “showing” you how it all works for her.
Please note orgasms are like muscles, if you haven’t learned how to use them they take awhile to get condition. Do your best to be patient and supportive of her progress. The rewards will be worth it! 2) Overcoming Shame About Sex
We still live in a world of double standards in regards to men, women and sex. If your lover has been raised to believe sex is a sin then you really have some serious conversations ahead of you. Some women feel that it’s okay to have sex so long as they’re “passive” about it, as long as they just let it be “done” to them.
For some men this is just fine, but as I pointed out, when a woman isn’t truly enjoying sex (and that usually includes orgasms for her as well) she’ll find all kinds of reasons not to participate in it. Ideally you want an active female participant who isn’t going to leave you with all the responsibility for everyone’s pleasure. Passive might seem just fine in the beginning, but sooner or later you’re going to get bored.
If she won’t honestly look at her beliefs and how they’re harming your sex life together, you may want to reconsider the relationship. I don’t mean to sound harsh, but some people just aren’t going to change religious beliefs they’ve had their whole lives. 3) If She’s Taking Anti-Depressants
Anti-Depressants can be a big challenge. They are very serious medicine and often have nasty side effects. If your lover is on an anti-depressant and that seems to be the reason she can’t orgasm (like say, she was able to in the past but can’t now) than she has a few choices – but all involve her doctor.
She needs to be frank with the doctor about what’s happening and ask if a) she can go on a lower dosage or b) perhaps try a type that doesn’t have such serious sexual side effects. Again you’ll both need to be patient because most of these drugs cannot be stopped cold turkey without serious and sometimes harmful side effects. Dealing with anti-depressants should always be in cooperation with a medical doctor. 4) Is There Abuse In Her Past?
Sad but true many of us have been sexually abused as children. If this is the case with your lover she needs to seriously consider getting the appropriate counseling. Of course you can talk with her about it, but you’re not qualified to work through her trauma with her. Understand that this is beyond your powers to heal. She needs to see a professional, but certainly your love and support will be needed as well. 5) Her Belief About the Female Orgasm
There is still the idea out there that female orgasms aren’t, and shouldn’t be, as important to women as to men. That idea has led us to miscommunication for years and years and huge numbers of women claiming to have a headache rather than face sex with a man. No, a woman doesn’t always have to orgasm from sex, but then neither does a man. There are times when you can have a tremendously erotic experience from just pleasing your partner, or perhaps, just from foreplay where neither party “gets off”.
The important point here is that you both recognize that her orgasms are as important as yours. True, hers might take longer to bring about, but that doesn’t mean she should get the short end of the stick as far as receiving them.

how to tell your partner is enjoying sex

It's hard to figure out whether your lover is truly enjoying sex with you or not. Well if you were to be direct and ask them than they might say they're loving it only to make you feel good and happy but the insider facts would never be known to you. You never know what's going on in the persons mind and how they are feeling. So you see there isn't a perfect answer or a surefire way to tell but there are signs which are guaranteed to prove whether your lover is enjoying sex with you or not. Read on to discover what these signs are and figure out whether your lover is enjoying sex with you or not.
See the intensity of passion- If your lover is truly enjoying having sex with you he or she would do it with more passion and it would always be intense. It's common human nature that whenever we tend to enjoy something we do it with greater passion and intensity. But if your partner lacks that fired passion and willingness in bed than you are doing something wrong for sure and you need to work on it before it too late.
Can you communicate without speaking? - This means that you don't need to verbally ask your lover what he or she wants rather you are very much in tune and know what he or she wants and you do exactly that. You see if these are your circumstances than you and your lover are sexually very much in tune with each other and there wouldn't be many problems with satisfying your partner in bed.
Does he or she want more? - Well again it's common human nature that when you like or enjoy something you want more and more of it. This same formula applies to sex, if your lover truly enjoys it and likes it than he or she would be constantly willing to get more and more of it from you. In case he or she does not tell or ask you for more there body language will easily tell you that they want more from you as they were enjoying it.
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bed room essentials

Researches found that couples with a television in their bedroom have less sex. So if you want a simple way of increasing your lovemaking get rid of the TV and replace it with a fireplace. Or get a fireplace DVD to watch as a hypnotic stress reducer and set a cozy mood. This way, if you're "lucky" your TV may just be a "boob" tube.
A famous home decorating personality was asked "what is the best kind of lighting to have when entertaining?" She responded by saying candlelight. She said something like, "It hides the dust and imperfections you may have in your home. Besides, everything looks better and more festive in candlelight."
The same could be said for intimate encounters, everything looks better in candlelight and it hides imperfections you may feel self conscious about. Make sure you have plenty of candles and a candle lighter in your bedroom.
A cold room may make a woman's nipples stand out as if aroused, but it can be like a cold shower on the mood. A cold nose and cold feet are not sexy. And blankets can get in the way of frolic. Make sure your love space is a nice place to be naked. Keep a small quiet space heater in your bedroom to warm your toes and your nose. If passion gets the room too hot, you can always turn off the space heater, but don't let a cold room be a turn off to passion. Place the space heater near your TV fireplace for faux fire heat effect.
Plan for the infamous wet spot. There are blankets made just for this purpose or make your own by using an inexpensive shower curtain covered with a soft throw blanket. You can even place a couple of layers of towels on top the shower curtain before covering with the throw blanket if needed because of the possibility of large amounts of fluid being released during your activities. When you're ready for sleep just fold up your sex blanket and set aside.
Don't forget the sex furniture. This can be anything from several inexpensive standard sized pillows covered with washable covers (use various prints and colors to give the pillows a romantic flare) to specialized foam furniture made just for sex. Using sex furniture or pillows can go a long way to making new positions easier to try and more comfortable and enjoyable.
Speaking of sex furniture, adding a leather Parsons chair and a leather bench to your room's décor can spice up your sex life. They are great for off the bed activities and open up many great new positions. Leather warms up quickly when exposed to a naked body and wipes clean with a damp clothe. And you don't have to worry about hiding them under the bed or in a closet.
Hand towels or wash clothes kept nearby come in handy for wiping up any spills. Forget using moistened towelettes, they just smear stuff around. Get a supply to use just for sex and matches your room's décor. Keep them in the nightstand drawer or folded nicely on top, dressed up with a napkin ring.
You can buy special "toy cleaner" but all you need is a container of hand sanitizer. Keep it with your "adult toys" and use after each toy session to keep them germ free.
If you have a lamp near your bed, consider replacing the bulb with a black light. Black light goes well with candlelight and there is something about black light that enhances the beauty of skin color. Also, with a black light nearby you can have fun writing sexy notes or explicit instructions on your skin with an ultraviolet marker that will light up under the black light.
Add these bedroom sex essentials to create a cozy comfortable love nest and enjoy more frequent love making.

art of seduction

Understanding what a woman is looking for in a man is the first secret to seducing a woman. For many men, the concept of how to seduce a woman is simply a mystery. It's understandable, though. Men and women differ in so many ways that it's difficult for many of us to really grasp how to get inside the mind of the opposite sex.
The true key to seducing a woman isn't a mere laundry list to check off, step by step. It's more a guidebook on the path you must follow to completely seduce a woman, mind, body and soul. And believe it or not, what really gets a woman going is much simpler than you may have ever imagined.
Understanding the differences between the sexes will help give you a better foundation on which to build your knowledge of women. Once you can get inside her mind, it's all downhill from there.
Communication is ultimately the most important aspect in seducing a woman. Like so many other aspects of our lives, effective communication is the key to success. You want to take the time to really get to know her and what she's looking for. This will benefit you greatly when it comes to pleasing her, so don't think that getting to know your woman is a pointless, grueling task of learning a bunch of useless information.
Patience when seducing your woman is equally important, too. Being in a hurry will only prove to damage any good you could've done by learning anything at all about your woman. When it comes to seducing a woman, take it slow. We want a man to take his time, not just rush in for the brass ring. A woman wants to know that you aren't just playing her for sex. And the best way to prove yourself is to take your time.
All in all, women want to feel special. Being romantic makes us feel special. So if you want to seduce your woman you have to be romantic. It proves that you care, that you want to please her and that you know how to treat a woman right. Romance will take you a long way in seducing a woman.

online blind dating

OK so you've been doing the Online dating thing for a while, you've posted your profile, and you've sent out a few winks, you've made a connection. Great. You've been e-mailing back and forth and now think, OK this is a person a may want to meet. What now?
There are several things to keep in mind while planning that first meeting with someone you have met online. While Online matchmaking especially when using a well-respected service like True or Match.com, is generally considered safe; there are still some precautions you should take to ensure not only that you have a great date, but your personal safety. And don't think that it us only women that need to be concerned about safety issues and online dating. Cyberspace is a breeding ground for scammers and con-artists of both sexes. There has been many a guy who has been taken for a ride literally and figuratively, by an unscrupulous "Fem Fatale" they met online. Ideally, being able to talk face-to-face via webcam such as using online speed dating and blind date service provided by 15minuteDate.com will weed out predators and encourage members to be more realistic about who they are.
As we talk about safety issues, please don't get the impression that the Online matchmaking world is filled with vampires or other unsavory types looking for a bite or worse - seriously; most of the time you will be taking precautions that turn out to be unnecessary but it always sensible to err on the side of caution. Before considering meeting in person the next step should be to exchange phone numbers, if someone is hesitant about giving you their number, refuses or will only give you a work number, you should think twice about meeting this person. On the other hand be cautious about giving your home number, because it is possible for people to do reverse searches and find your address from you phone number, for this reason it may be better to only give your cell number. Talk a few times on the phone -see if the connection you thought was there follows in open conversation as it was in text and e-mails. After a few phone conversations you should be able to tell if this person does not "sound" like the type of person you thought they were when you were communicating online. If something doesn't feel right to you, go with your guts and move on, but if you feel that this is someone you really want to meet, set up the meeting, after all while having online relationships can be a fun social interaction, meeting someone and possibly forming a real relationship is what most of us signed up for.
It is absolutely normal to feel nervous about meeting for the first time, but remember relax; this is not a 100% "blind date" since you already know this person - to a point. Still, definitely set up the meeting in a public place. There is very little chance that something untoward can happen in a public restaurant or café. If it does turn out that the person was not what you expected, you can always leave securely from a public place. As will most likely be the case, if all goes well you can select a somewhat more intimate setting for the next meeting. A partner that is looking for the same kind of relationship that you are will respect your desire to move things along slowly.
While it is unlikely that anything unpleasant will occur - you can wind up just having a bad date. Not to worry, if you meet IRL and do not connect, there is no shame - you still have your membership and your profile up and working, and there will likely be dozens of other e-mails in you inbox to respond to when you get home - and one of them may just be the love of your life. It is just like a speed dating session. In speed dating you just keep moving to the next person and eventually you find the one you are looking for. That is the great thing about Online Dating. And now you already have taken the first step in knowing how to deal with moving from online dating to the real world, so the next IRL date with the next person will be that much easier. On the other hand, if it goes great - congratulations! You can now be excited and relieved that all the time you took to make sure this person was everything you hoped they'd be has paid off.

love really hurts

Let us make no mistake love can sometimes hurt and hurt badly. This hurt can cause us all types of feelings of pain and dismay as we try and cope with the feelings of pain that stop us in our tracks. What causes us pain and where does it come from?
Pain is a feeling that comes from rejection. When someone hurts us to the point that we feel reject immediately we begin to feel pain. In the end this pain can either turn into grief or it can turn into anger. In either of these forms it can be difficult to get over.
The anger of grief that we feel continues to gnaw at our psyche because it is not something we are able to rectify in our own minds. We have questions and the thoughts invade our heads simply because we are attempting to discover the reason why we are rejected.
The more gruesome and bold the rejection the more likely it is going to cause us pain. For example, if we have a good relationship with someone and we catch them cheating on us we begin to wonder what went wrong. Obviously if we cheated on them many times and find that their action was to punish us we wouldn't feel nearly as angry as if it was unprovoked.
Until we get an answer or are able to file away the incident it will consume our efforts. In many cases we may not actually be able to sleep because we keep thinking about what has happened or why it has happened. Weaving a good story can help us.
The next time that you are so completely damaged understand the nature of the feelings of rejection and the reason why we keep questioning. We are better able to put the issue to rest if we can find a reason or weave a believable story. It might be mind tricks but it sure does help (most of us simply blame the other people

go for the anal!

Have you been looking for new ways to turn the heat up for your lover and give her more intense orgasms? Did you know that the entire pelvic floor region of human anatomy is super sensitive to stimulation?
That means the undersides of a woman’s ass, her inner thighs, the outer lips of her labia and, yes, her anus are all areas that can be teased and caressed to bring about even more intense erotic pleasure.
This is powerful information if you use it properly.
But it takes some finesse. What you don’t want to do is move forward like a complete oaf, trying to jam a finger up her back door with no warning (and worse no lube) and concentrating only on your own thrill of venturing into new territory.
No.
Anal sex (whether stimulation from a finger, a toy, or the full Monty) is still a taboo subject for many people (and illegal is some states).
If you find that you can’t bring the subject up directly with your lover than you need to move forward with care and caution. And yes, some women might totally freak if you ask her about it casually, but in the heat of the moment if you play your cards right, she might find the sensation so pleasurable she totally forgets her inhibitions.
But remember I said to move forward with care and caution. Now let me point out why. Unlike the vagina the rectum doesn’t self lubricate, it’s lining is also delicate and prone to tearing, so no rough cuticles or hang nails, or forcing things to happen – and never without proper lubrication. Let me be very clear here – it hurts like hell.
Also, the rectum is full of very virulent bacteria, so if you touch the entrance, or go inside, you cannot touch anything else before washing your hand with soap and water.
But nothing ventured, nothing gained, and the payoff is worth it.
So let’s say you and your gal are getting down, having a good time, and you want to try this new thing. How do you introduce it while in action? Let’s say you’re giving her some oral action, start by caressing the undersides of her tush with your fingers (always keeping your ears and eyes open for her reactions) slowly moving towards her back door. If her breathing quickens even more, if she starts making more noise, than you can whisper as your fingers inch closer “ever thought of a little extra stimulation back here?”
If she vigorously shakes her head and tenses up, today’s not your day.
If she shrugs, or moans but ignores the question, or (hopefully) says something like “yeah, that sounds good right now” don’t be greedy – again move slowly. The anus is so sensitive that simply stroking the entrance of it while going down on her will add fireworks. In fact, that’s probably how you should start…
And remember to use extra lubricant.
So let’s say you’d like to introduce a little more anal play into your routine. The easiest way to add to the action during intercourse is with her on top. With her on top, grinding away, you can cup her ass in your hands and slowly work your way around to her back door again. If she enjoyed the extra stimulation at the entrance, try inserting just the tip of a finger – remember a little goes a long way with anything new you’re trying. Don’t push further than she’s comfortable with you going.
Once you find out that she actually enjoys this sort of stimulation then you can branch out into using toys, and yes, even anal intercourse – but always remember that you shouldn’t push her farther than she’s comfortable because something that’s meant to ad pleasure can end up causing pain.
Now, it may so happen that your gal is the sort who likes fair play. She might just turn around and say that she’s more than willing to let you try anal stimulation on her – if you let her try it on you. Be open minded (but no, I’m not suggesting she go get a strap on if you’re not ready or interested in that), you have that same pelvic floor region she does, and remember that men have an area inside of the anus (called the prostrate gland – which women don’t have) that can actually trigger quite intense orgasms.

7 signs he's intrested

Are you actively flirting with a guy you see frequently but having trouble knowing for sure whether he might want to get together? It can be frustrating not knowing whether he may feel the same way as you do. Wouldn't it be great to be able to read his mind? While that may not be possible, there are a number of telltale signs that he is probably very interested. Here are 7 of those signs:
Sign #1: He uses your name often when he speaks to you: If he likes you, your name is literally music to his ears and he will want to say it often. It makes him feel good to say your name.
Sign #2: He tends to brush up against or touch you: Those little innocent brushes in the hallway or light touches on the shoulder at your desk are not by accident. They are ways of being closer to you and are a prelude to more intimate physical touching.
Sign #3: He ignores you at odd times: If he is unsure about how you feel about him, he may actually try ignoring you at certain times. He may be nervous about what to say, or he could be afraid that you will catch a glimpse in his eyes of how he really feels about you.
Sign #4: You are good friends but he avoids talking about his love life: If you two are friends but he wants more, he may conspicuously avoid telling you about whom he is dating or he may leave key details out. This is a classic sign that he is trying to protect your feelings and also that he is trying not hamper the possibility of dating you in the future.
Sign #5: He tends to ignore other women when you are around: For example, if there are three attractive women in the room and he is giving you by far the most attention, that is a huge sign that he likes you.
Sign #6: He looks for your reaction first when he tells a joke: If you are in a group situation and he tells what he thinks is a funny joke, he will give his first eye contact after the punch line to the person on whom he has a crush.
Sign #7: His close friends ask you about whom you are dating: Do you find that his friends have asked you about your love life? They may be trying to find out more information and then feeding it back to him so that he can stay informed.
Once you know are fairly sure that he likes you, it is time to take action. Put together a step-by-step plan for getting him to fall for you

how to get the beautiful girl of your dreams

How many times have you seen an absolutely breathtaking woman walk by, arms draped lovingly around a guy that is not nearly as good looking as you? All the time, right? You know how many times I've had a guy friend freak out over yet another beautiful hottie dating a guy with just average looks? Happens every time we all go out! And this is where you guys get it consistently wrong. Maybe it's just that we are much deeper creatures than you guys, but.....there is A LOT more to being sexy than a handsome face or a pumped up bod. I'll go as far as to say that EVERY one of my beautiful girl friends goes out with a guy who has just about average looks. (And a few I even think are below average - but they are still SEXY!) Now, obviously these have something you don't right? I mean, you are an attractive guy and you have probably dated some pretty girls, but I'm guessing if you're honest, you'll admit that few of them have been absolutely STUNNING. Here are a few easy ways to pick up your rap a notch next time you see a woman you want, but think she's out of your league. (She's not, trust me!)
1)You have got to believe you are worthy of dating the woman in the room that all eyes can't stop watching....The woman who makes the clock on the wall stop ticking....If you don't have the confidence that she belongs with you, you'll NEVER get her. That is where it all begins, guys. I can spot a man who's got "IT" - even if he's just ok looking, from a mile and a half away, on a foggy day and without my glasses on..:-) That's how powerful confidence is. When you see it, it knocks you over and brings a beautiful woman to her knees. If you don't have it now, you need to get it. And soon!
2)Make her feel she needs to be WORTHY of going home with YOU. This is easier said than done for most men, but for the man who you want to be? It will come naturally. The average looking guy who has mastered this skill is so far ahead of the great looking guy with no appeal other than a good looking face. A handsome guy grows old quick, boys. But the challenge of a guy who makes US work for it, that goes on forever! Develop the "game" of keeping us one step behind and you will always be on top. (Or at least as far as keeping us interested goes..:-)
3)Compliment her - but not on her looks! This is so simple....Yet 99% of guys will just never get this.... (Although YOU will!) Everyone compliments her on her looks. She KNOWS she looks good. But she's still insecure, just like you. Most likely, her insecurities are simply in other areas. This is where you are going to be unique and make her melt....Rather than stating the OBVIOUS which every guy who hits on her is going to point out ( "you are beautiful") you are going to find other things to point out that are equally as flattering, yet have nothing to do with her looks. I don't care what it is - find something! And work it hard..:-) Trust me, she's going to pay A LOT more attention to a compliment she hasn't heard before, rather than the same stuff all the other boys are saying.
As always...There is so much more. But this is enough to get MOST beautiful women interested, and very intrigued. Start working on the above and you are going to see a very big change in the next few months, trust me....women you never believed would be coming home with YOU will. A

dealing with heartbreaks

The end of a relationship can be a very painful thing, whether it was a mutual decision, you initiated it, or your former boyfriend or girlfriend suggested you break up. You may have invested a great deal of yourself in that other person. You may have thought you were going to spend the rest of your lives together. You may find that you are losing not only a boyfriend or girlfriend, but someone you considered a best friend.
Grieving the Relationship
It is important to remember that the end of any relationship gives us cause to grieve. Breaking up with someone is like experiencing a death – the death of the relationship, of you being loved by that person, of your hopes and dreams for the future with that person. This sounds very bleak, and it is important to remember that it is also the start of new things for you. I say that breaking up is a death so you remember that it is okay to grieve.
Grieving is a process. You might feel fine one day. "Finally!" You think. "I am over her!" Then you hear "your song" on the radio, or your friends talk about her, or you find an old note from her...and you feel hurt and sad and even a little bitter all over again. Give yourself time. Permit yourself to cry if you need to cry. Do not, however, dwell in your misery – playing "your song" over and over again, or pulling out the old box of love letters every day.
Looking to the Future
The end of your relationship is also a new beginning. A new beginning for what? That is up to you! You have freedom that you may not have had before when in the relationship. Take a pottery class or get involved in a regional sports team. Meet and interact with new people. Reflect upon your relationship and ask yourself, "What have I learned from it?"
Take yourself out on dates! Discover the value of quiet, of being alone. You may even start a journal and find a favorite little cafe to go and sit and write for hours. Appreciate saying, "A table for one, please."
Avoid the Rubberband Effect
You've heard before of rebound relationships. I'll mention them again, because people continue to make this mistake time and time again. Do not bounce back into a relationship immediately after a break-up. It is a very vulnerable and emotional time for you. If you meet somebody that you're certain is Mr. or Ms. Right, wait! If they're right for you, then they'll be right for you four months down the road. You don't want to start a relationship with someone just because lonely and hurting. It isn't fair to them or to you. Enjoy the time alone and enjoy being yourself for a little while.
When the time is right, start dating again. And you will know when the time is right.

3 essential keys to planning a romantic date

Candlelight, flowers, and mood music are nice...but they do not necessarily a romantic date make. We at Romancetips spend a lot time offering suggestions for specific date ideas -- like taking him for a midnight picnic on the beach, or creating a "favorite things" date for her by making her favorite dinner and watching her favorite movie. However, we haven't offered much in the way of principles for romantic and fun dates. Until now, that is.In our tireless research and extensive dating research (going on hundreds of dates is hard work, let me tell you,) we've noticed five elements that the most romantic and successful dates always contain. And in our effort to make the world a more loving and romantic place, we've decided to let you in on them. 1. Surprise--The element of surprise is a very powerful tool. It shows foresight and planning, it says "I care enough about you to go to lengths to, well, surprise you." Women especially seem to relate surprise with romance. It doesn't need to be an elaborate scheme, either. For your next date try telling your sweetie to be ready at a certain time but do not tell them where you're going or what you'll be doing. Pick them up and blindfold them for the drive, then take them to a new spot -- perhaps a park or restaurant that has just opened. Tell your love that you found this spot and it made you long to surprise him/her with it.
2. Creativity-- Do you find your dating life or marriage falling into a rut of the "same old's?" Same old Friday night dinner and a movie date, same old lingerie, same old conversations? Creativity in your dating life keeps things fresh and passionate. When was the last time you did something silly on a date? Had a pillow fight or water war? Finger painted? Read poetry out loud? Dressed in strange clothing? If you've never done one of these things, try it on your next date. Better yet, combine two or more of these activities!
3. Interest-- Okay, this seems like a no-brainer, but for a successful date one or both of you need to be interested in the activity. Its best if both of you have a modicum of interest, but not absolutely necessary as long as the bored

3 hot sex positions!!!

The "hottest" sex positions are the best sex positions and allow both you and your partner to experience the greatest pleasure and come to an orgasm. Seems obvious, right? But it’s amazing how many otherwise intelligent people totally miss this point.
Men are often guilty of wanting to perform the kind of athletic, acrobatic, frequently-changing "sex position" style of intercourse they see in their favorite porn thinking that a woman will be impressed by their stamina and creativity, while women are often guilty of going along with what the guy wants in hopes that he’s taken their pleasure into account as well. Hot Sex Positions vs. The Wrong Sex Positions
Unfortunately this doesn’t usually happen. Some men are totally clueless and think only of how to get to their own orgasm as quickly as possible, while others want to please their partners but erroneously think this means “performing well” by keeping their erection going as long as possible.
Neither works well because both have forgotten the golden key to great sex – and that’s great communication. And I’m not only going to lay the blame at men’s feet here, many women are still too shy and inhibited to speak up and tell the guy exactly what they need in order to feel pleasure and reach an orgasm during intercourse, often because they don’t really know.
With this in mind let’s take a look at the top three sex positions and look at how they can bring a woman greater pleasure. Men if you find that it’s difficult to keep your erection while bringing a woman to orgasm first (`cause unless you’re into tantric sex and know how to orgasm without ejaculating you’re not going to bring her to an orgasm via intercourse after you had one) than try bringing her close to an orgasm with your hand or orally first before beginning intercourse. `Woman on Top` Sex Position
If you read men’s magazines the favorite positions in polls (including for women) is “doggy style,” while in women’s magazine both men and women’s favorite position is “woman on top.” Since a large majority (60-85% depending on which poll you read) of women don’t orgasm from plain old intercourse alone I’m going to put the position that puts women in charge of what goes on first…and ladies you definitely need to step up to bat and learn how to be in the driver’s seat for this one.
Variations For Greater Pleasure
Some women don’t like to be “on top” because they feel the man gets to be too lazy and only has to lay back and watch the show. You can remedy this by having the man sit up against pillows so that it’s far easier to kiss and the woman can feel more engaged with the man. The woman really does need to set the pace with this position since she’s the one with the greatest range of motion possible. If she needs greater clitoral stimulation than this position normally gives her she should arch forward and do more of a grinding motion that thrusting so that her clitoris will be rubbing up against the man pubic bone. If she needs even more stimulation she should be brave and use her own fingers to stimulate herself while finding a rhythm that works for you both. The man can add even greater stimulation by caressing the sensitive undersides of her buttocks, or stroking her back door (make sure she’s well lubricated) or even inserting a finger into her anus (but ask permission first). `Doggy Style` Sex Position
Men love this position because, well, it’s easy as pie and it allows us to gaze at a woman’s sexual plumbing. For many women it’s a favorite position because it can be great for “G-spot” stimulation, however, for many women men can thrust too deep and actually hit a woman’s cervix, which some women enjoy, but many find extremely painful.
Variations For Greater Pleasure
The key to successful “doggy style” intercourse again is communication. Just as the head of a man’s penis is the most sensitive, the first third of a woman’s vagina is the most sensitive and the “G-spot” isn’t down deep at the back, it’s on the front wall about a third of the way down (though it varies woman to woman) so you need to communicate with your lover to find the right thrust that works for her.
Also, the “G-spot” often needs a lot of stimulation before it “wakes up” so you need to either go down on a woman first orally and make sure she’s either had an orgasm already, or is pretty darn close, or you need to reach your hand around and give her plenty of clitoral stimulation at the same time to make sure she’s enjoying things the way you are.
The problem man and women have with “doggy style” is that it feels very impersonal. To make her feel more connected try a couple variations on the theme such as rear entry while you’re both on your knees, or standing, in front of a mirror so that there’s plenty of eye contact and you both get the visual stimulation of seeing exactly what’s going on – and guys don’t be lazy, unless a woman tells you otherwise, reach your hand around and give her clitoris the stimulation it needs. `Missionary Style` Sex Position
Yes, the old standard is still a favorite for many couples because it’s one of the most intimate, but again this position only works for both parties with good communication.
Variations For Greater Pleasure
The CAT or coitus alignment technique is a way to make sure you’re lined up to give her clitoris the stimulation it needs to get its groove on. To get into position the man slides forward from his normal resting place so that the woman’s clitoris is receiving stimulation from the base of the man’s penis, also his legs should rest on the outside of her legs instead of the inside. Then rather than using a thrusting motion like you’d normally engage in the woman initiate a more gentle rocking motion, making sure her clitoris is getting the stimulation and contact it needs. The man should push down gently counter resisting the woman’s upward motion.

how to attract your lover!!!

You love him. You want him more than anything in the world. Now put your potions into practice and he'll be yours forever.
Timing: On the new moonDay: Thursday or Friday nightHour: 6pm, 9pm or midnight
You'll need:
A red candle (a taper is fine – not in glass) – and a candle-holder
parchment paper and pen
a sharp instrument to inscribe on the candle (such as a toothpick)
rose oil, jasmine oil, or some other pleasant floral scent of your choice
an ashtray, or some other flameproof container
Get started Begin by taking a bath. After you finish, dry off, but don’t get dressed. Prepare the red candle by inscribing on it your name, your birthdate, your sun sign, and/or any symbols you associate with yourself. If you have a secret name you use, inscribe that as well.
Next, take the parchment paper and the pen. Write all the qualities you want in a potential lover. For example: good listener, sexy, patient, dances well, etc. List whatever you want, but don’t write any one person’s name – you don’t have the right to impose your will on them. If they’re really are right for you, this spell will bring them to you. If not, this spell will bring the person who is.
After you’ve written the parchment, take the oil and use it to anoint the parchment on its corners, and over each quality you want. As you do this, say: “I call upon thee, Aphrodite and Venus, Goddesses of Love and Beauty, hear me! I ask you to send me a lover who is: (read your parchment) I ask you to send him to me, so that I may know true happiness in love! So Mote It Be!”
Now take the oil and anoint the candle, then anoint your wrists. Light the candle and as you do so, call out to the goddesses in your own words that you want this lover to come into your life.
As the candle burns, read your parchment over and over, several times – aloud or silently. Impress upon your mind these qualities you want in a lover. Also, feel your need for this lover, let your secret desires come and feel them. Send the energy of these desires to the candle and thus to the goddesses. You can dance to raise energy, or you can dance erotically to raise your own desires. You can also touch and please yourself this time, the way you imagine a lover might touch and please you. Do whatever you feel comfortable doing, and allow the candle to continue burning.
Finishing up When you’re ready to end the ritual, the last thing you should burn is the parchment paper describing the qualities you want in a lover. Read it over one last time, then consign it to the candle’s flame. Let it burn completely. The candle needs to be burned out completely, though you don’t have to stay with it the whole time – just ensure it can burn safely.
Take the ashes from the parchment when you’re finished and allow the wind to take them out of your hand, or scatter them in a moving river or stream. To finish the ritual, you should wear the oil you used every day until the full moon. And now be sure to be open to meeting new people, especially during the next two- to 12-week period. Don’t turn down invitations to parties, and don’t just sit at home waiting for someone to call you!

the G-spot!!!!

That Really Hit the G-spot!
Did you know that women could have more than one kind of orgasm? Yep, not only are the lucky creatures the owner of the only body part dedicated solely to arousal and sexual pleasure (the love button – aka the clitoris), and able to have multiple orgasms with no down time to recharge, women are also able to have several different types of orgasms from genital stimulation.
Let me break away here for a moment and note that both men and women have the capacity to experience full body orgasms (where men learn to orgasm throughout their entire body without ejaculating, meaning they don’t experience the “down” period of tiredness ejaculation brings on) but that will be the subject of a different article (don’t’ worry, I’m hot on the case doing research). G-spot And Orgasms
So back to girls and the different types of genital orgasms they can experience. Just about all-genital arousal for women starts with the clitoris; so ignore this magnificent bundle of nerves at your own peril. However, once a woman is fully aroused via clitoral stimulation, you can either add or switch (depending on the woman’s preference) to different types of genital stimulation for variations on the orgasmic bang.
Which brings us to the much wondered about “G-Spot.” While scientist and sexuality experts still
argue whether the spot actually exists, regular people are quietly (and not so quietly) going about seeking it out and all the pleasurable possibilities it can ignite in their love lives. Getting to the G-Spot
Okay, so let’s get down to the “G-Spot” basics. First off, the name comes from a Dr. Grafenberg who wrote about this special area of a woman’s anatomy back in the 1950’s - it’s not, however, necessarily a spot. On his website doctorg.org Dr. Gary Schubach, a sex educator and writer, quotes from Grafenberg’s originally published study in order to argue for the existence of the sensitive area and gives a very good explanation of what could be going on:
“Grafenberg does not refer to the G-spot as ‘a small but allegedly highly sensitive area on the anterior wall of the human vagina about a third of the way up from the vaginal opening,’ but to the ‘area’ or ‘zone’ on the upper wall of the vagina through which the prostate (aka Skene`s glands and ducts) can be accessed. In women, the prostate gland, while generally smaller than the male prostate, also surrounds the urethra, close to the urethral opening. The great sensitivity comes not from what is on the upper wall of the vagina, but from glands and ducts behind the vaginal wall.”
It’s very important to pay attention to the fact that the sensitive “G-zone” is apparently behind the vaginal wall as well as the fact that this area isn’t sensitive to stimulation unless a woman is already aroused.
So yes, your girl needs to be totally hot and bothered before you let your fingers do the walking to discovery because otherwise you’re going to come up (pardon the pun) dry. In fact, it’s best if she’s already had at least one orgasm before you go on your search just to make sure she’s totally ready. It’s also important to note that the “G-zone” often needs quite strong stimulation in order to trigger any pleasurable response. These two previous reasons, plus the tricky location, explain why the “G-zone” is so challenging for women to both find and trigger on their own.
It’s great to be needed! Triggering the G-Spot
So your gal is all hot and bothered, all wet and ready, and now you’re ready to venture forth and see what you can make happen. It’s a good idea to move forward with the idea of “finding pleasure zones in her vagina” rather than getting yourselves stuck on the idea that you will find the G-Spot and it will trigger such an amazing mind blowing orgasm that your gal will weep with the ecstasy of it all.
Don’t get me wrong, that would be a wonderful thing to make happen, but in my experience in dealing with this tricky area it’s more of a process of discovery rather than an immediate eureka! What I mean by this is that in the women who have learned to have orgasms triggered this way find the G-Spot often becomes more sensitive and able to trigger an orgasm over time and, well, use.
Think of it like a muscle, if it hasn’t been used in a long time, or ever, how effective is it going to be the first time it’s called to action?
And of course, it’s important to note that not all women are going to respond to stimulation in this area – and with some women you’re going to find a totally different area in her vagina that’s super sensitive to stimulation that you never new about before.
So it’s important to spend time discovering her magnificent cave and all that’s going on in there.
With this in mind, and with your woman all turned on, she needs to do two things before you can get down to business:
1) She needs to empty her bladder before you begin as you’re going to be stimulating an area close to her bladder and it often makes her feel like she needs to pee when first stimulated. If she’s nice and empty beforehand she won’t be worried about possible leaks. The G-Spot Needs Easy Access
2) She needs to be in a comfortable position, as do you, and of course one that allows you easy access to the G-Spot. Two good positions are in a big comfortable chair, facing you, with you sitting on the floor in front of her – this way you have access to her clit with your other hand, and your mouth. The second good position is with her lying on her stomach, hips elevated with a pillow, legs wide so you can have easy access to her – and again you might want to be sitting on the ground.
It’s important not to rush forward into fingering her, which might be the thing you’re so use to doing. Instead insert one or two fingers and gently but firmly press against the front wall of her vagina. Starting about an inch or so up start making “come here” motions with your fingers against her vagina, or if that doesn’t feel good to her, press firmly moving your way up. You’re looking for an area that is either swollen or a very different texture (one friend of mine said it felt like the ridges on the roof of your mouth just behind your front teeth). Once you hit this area try the come-hither motion, or pressing and rubbing, while at the same time giving her (or she can take charge of this) clitoral stimulation.
The goal is to try and transfer the pleasure from just clitoral stimulation to a combo of clitoral and G-Spot stimulation. This is why it’s a good reason to have her handle her clitoris herself, as she feels new pleasurable sensations in her G-Spot she can back off her clitoris and enjoy what you’re doing…but it’ll be give and take. Remember this is a learning process – but one that will definitely be worth it!

sexology 101

You likely know that men get turned on by visiual stimuli. What you may not know is how much you can amp up your guy's plasure by exploting his craving for eye candy. The link between what men see and sexual arousal is an evolutionary holdover from prehistorisc times, when the first guy to spot an available, responsive female was the one who got to mate with her.
Thankfully, courtship has progressed since then, but men still repond primally to an optical thrill. Use that fact to eroticize your encounters at anytime from foreplay to the main thing with tese tantalizing tips and please leave the lights on!!

BEFORE THE BEDROOM
*Flash him a glimpse of you in bra and panties in the morning when his testorone is at its peak.
*Seductively lick a dab of food off your lips or finger. He'll imagine what your toungue would feel like on him.
*Draw attention to your sexiest parts with jewellry,like a pendant that grazes your cleaveage or a belly ring to bring his gaze down south
*Get undressed in another room, but stay in his line of sight. He'll feel like sneaking a peek at you stripping down

DURING FOREPLAY
*Prop a mirror in front of your bed, sit you guy down, straddle him, then start making out. Watching the action plus the intoxicating site of you would spike his lust.
*Grab his hand and guide it to your hot spots, leaving an arm's length between you so he can see your body and face as your arousal increases
*Get into the 69 position, lying on your sides, then encourage him just to rest his head on you inner thigh and enjoy the scenery

DURING THE DEED
*Keep on a piece of clothing like a skirt or a pair of super high heels to give your interlude a couldn't-wait-to-get-it-on urgency
*As you are bobbing up and down on top, rub your hands all over your torso, squezing your breasts togehther to create a super cleavage.
*On top, turn around and face his feet, brace yourself with your havds, then arch your spine and drop your head back letting your hair spill acrosss his chest. slimmer chicks might get so far that they may make eye contact with him upside down. Now that is an image he'll never forget.....or want to

MOVING ON

When we suffer heart breaks or disappointments in relationships, it takes a lot of strength to pull ourselves through. Most times, we go on brooding over what happened and blame ourselves for yet another breakup. The pain is most felt when our partner elopes without giving us any concrete reason. We ask ourselves why, when and how? We tend to believe that we did not play our roles as lovers very well.
Agrees, getting over a failed relationship is and arduous task given the fact that we may have tailored our life patterns and gotten so used to our partners that we suddenly find ourselves lonely and empty. This makes us to not come to terms with the reality of the breakup so, as we believe it may still be a mirage or wait for a miracle to happen.
So what do you do when faced with a breakup? It’s imperative that we find the inner strength to forget the past and move on with or lives. The world is still full of exciting people waiting to meet us so why brood over one person? There are also people who still appreciate us like old pals and colleagues. These people knowingly on otherwise make us realize our positive attributes. You can also do those things that you missed while in the relationship like hanging out with the girls, clubbing,. flirting e.t.c
You can also learn new skills like a new language, cooking that special recipe or enrolling for a new course. The basic thing is that you should improve on you self image. Read self-help books, get a new wardrobe and change your looks. Most importantly change your mindset and see the positive things that life holds for you. Take what has happened as a blessing in disguise. Have you not heard every dark cloud has a silver lining? So why should we allow one fellow to rob us of the beauty of life? Simply move on with you life!!!