love really hurts

Let us make no mistake love can sometimes hurt and hurt badly. This hurt can cause us all types of feelings of pain and dismay as we try and cope with the feelings of pain that stop us in our tracks. What causes us pain and where does it come from?
Pain is a feeling that comes from rejection. When someone hurts us to the point that we feel reject immediately we begin to feel pain. In the end this pain can either turn into grief or it can turn into anger. In either of these forms it can be difficult to get over.
The anger of grief that we feel continues to gnaw at our psyche because it is not something we are able to rectify in our own minds. We have questions and the thoughts invade our heads simply because we are attempting to discover the reason why we are rejected.
The more gruesome and bold the rejection the more likely it is going to cause us pain. For example, if we have a good relationship with someone and we catch them cheating on us we begin to wonder what went wrong. Obviously if we cheated on them many times and find that their action was to punish us we wouldn't feel nearly as angry as if it was unprovoked.
Until we get an answer or are able to file away the incident it will consume our efforts. In many cases we may not actually be able to sleep because we keep thinking about what has happened or why it has happened. Weaving a good story can help us.
The next time that you are so completely damaged understand the nature of the feelings of rejection and the reason why we keep questioning. We are better able to put the issue to rest if we can find a reason or weave a believable story. It might be mind tricks but it sure does help (most of us simply blame the other people

go for the anal!

Have you been looking for new ways to turn the heat up for your lover and give her more intense orgasms? Did you know that the entire pelvic floor region of human anatomy is super sensitive to stimulation?
That means the undersides of a woman’s ass, her inner thighs, the outer lips of her labia and, yes, her anus are all areas that can be teased and caressed to bring about even more intense erotic pleasure.
This is powerful information if you use it properly.
But it takes some finesse. What you don’t want to do is move forward like a complete oaf, trying to jam a finger up her back door with no warning (and worse no lube) and concentrating only on your own thrill of venturing into new territory.
No.
Anal sex (whether stimulation from a finger, a toy, or the full Monty) is still a taboo subject for many people (and illegal is some states).
If you find that you can’t bring the subject up directly with your lover than you need to move forward with care and caution. And yes, some women might totally freak if you ask her about it casually, but in the heat of the moment if you play your cards right, she might find the sensation so pleasurable she totally forgets her inhibitions.
But remember I said to move forward with care and caution. Now let me point out why. Unlike the vagina the rectum doesn’t self lubricate, it’s lining is also delicate and prone to tearing, so no rough cuticles or hang nails, or forcing things to happen – and never without proper lubrication. Let me be very clear here – it hurts like hell.
Also, the rectum is full of very virulent bacteria, so if you touch the entrance, or go inside, you cannot touch anything else before washing your hand with soap and water.
But nothing ventured, nothing gained, and the payoff is worth it.
So let’s say you and your gal are getting down, having a good time, and you want to try this new thing. How do you introduce it while in action? Let’s say you’re giving her some oral action, start by caressing the undersides of her tush with your fingers (always keeping your ears and eyes open for her reactions) slowly moving towards her back door. If her breathing quickens even more, if she starts making more noise, than you can whisper as your fingers inch closer “ever thought of a little extra stimulation back here?”
If she vigorously shakes her head and tenses up, today’s not your day.
If she shrugs, or moans but ignores the question, or (hopefully) says something like “yeah, that sounds good right now” don’t be greedy – again move slowly. The anus is so sensitive that simply stroking the entrance of it while going down on her will add fireworks. In fact, that’s probably how you should start…
And remember to use extra lubricant.
So let’s say you’d like to introduce a little more anal play into your routine. The easiest way to add to the action during intercourse is with her on top. With her on top, grinding away, you can cup her ass in your hands and slowly work your way around to her back door again. If she enjoyed the extra stimulation at the entrance, try inserting just the tip of a finger – remember a little goes a long way with anything new you’re trying. Don’t push further than she’s comfortable with you going.
Once you find out that she actually enjoys this sort of stimulation then you can branch out into using toys, and yes, even anal intercourse – but always remember that you shouldn’t push her farther than she’s comfortable because something that’s meant to ad pleasure can end up causing pain.
Now, it may so happen that your gal is the sort who likes fair play. She might just turn around and say that she’s more than willing to let you try anal stimulation on her – if you let her try it on you. Be open minded (but no, I’m not suggesting she go get a strap on if you’re not ready or interested in that), you have that same pelvic floor region she does, and remember that men have an area inside of the anus (called the prostrate gland – which women don’t have) that can actually trigger quite intense orgasms.

7 signs he's intrested

Are you actively flirting with a guy you see frequently but having trouble knowing for sure whether he might want to get together? It can be frustrating not knowing whether he may feel the same way as you do. Wouldn't it be great to be able to read his mind? While that may not be possible, there are a number of telltale signs that he is probably very interested. Here are 7 of those signs:
Sign #1: He uses your name often when he speaks to you: If he likes you, your name is literally music to his ears and he will want to say it often. It makes him feel good to say your name.
Sign #2: He tends to brush up against or touch you: Those little innocent brushes in the hallway or light touches on the shoulder at your desk are not by accident. They are ways of being closer to you and are a prelude to more intimate physical touching.
Sign #3: He ignores you at odd times: If he is unsure about how you feel about him, he may actually try ignoring you at certain times. He may be nervous about what to say, or he could be afraid that you will catch a glimpse in his eyes of how he really feels about you.
Sign #4: You are good friends but he avoids talking about his love life: If you two are friends but he wants more, he may conspicuously avoid telling you about whom he is dating or he may leave key details out. This is a classic sign that he is trying to protect your feelings and also that he is trying not hamper the possibility of dating you in the future.
Sign #5: He tends to ignore other women when you are around: For example, if there are three attractive women in the room and he is giving you by far the most attention, that is a huge sign that he likes you.
Sign #6: He looks for your reaction first when he tells a joke: If you are in a group situation and he tells what he thinks is a funny joke, he will give his first eye contact after the punch line to the person on whom he has a crush.
Sign #7: His close friends ask you about whom you are dating: Do you find that his friends have asked you about your love life? They may be trying to find out more information and then feeding it back to him so that he can stay informed.
Once you know are fairly sure that he likes you, it is time to take action. Put together a step-by-step plan for getting him to fall for you

how to get the beautiful girl of your dreams

How many times have you seen an absolutely breathtaking woman walk by, arms draped lovingly around a guy that is not nearly as good looking as you? All the time, right? You know how many times I've had a guy friend freak out over yet another beautiful hottie dating a guy with just average looks? Happens every time we all go out! And this is where you guys get it consistently wrong. Maybe it's just that we are much deeper creatures than you guys, but.....there is A LOT more to being sexy than a handsome face or a pumped up bod. I'll go as far as to say that EVERY one of my beautiful girl friends goes out with a guy who has just about average looks. (And a few I even think are below average - but they are still SEXY!) Now, obviously these have something you don't right? I mean, you are an attractive guy and you have probably dated some pretty girls, but I'm guessing if you're honest, you'll admit that few of them have been absolutely STUNNING. Here are a few easy ways to pick up your rap a notch next time you see a woman you want, but think she's out of your league. (She's not, trust me!)
1)You have got to believe you are worthy of dating the woman in the room that all eyes can't stop watching....The woman who makes the clock on the wall stop ticking....If you don't have the confidence that she belongs with you, you'll NEVER get her. That is where it all begins, guys. I can spot a man who's got "IT" - even if he's just ok looking, from a mile and a half away, on a foggy day and without my glasses on..:-) That's how powerful confidence is. When you see it, it knocks you over and brings a beautiful woman to her knees. If you don't have it now, you need to get it. And soon!
2)Make her feel she needs to be WORTHY of going home with YOU. This is easier said than done for most men, but for the man who you want to be? It will come naturally. The average looking guy who has mastered this skill is so far ahead of the great looking guy with no appeal other than a good looking face. A handsome guy grows old quick, boys. But the challenge of a guy who makes US work for it, that goes on forever! Develop the "game" of keeping us one step behind and you will always be on top. (Or at least as far as keeping us interested goes..:-)
3)Compliment her - but not on her looks! This is so simple....Yet 99% of guys will just never get this.... (Although YOU will!) Everyone compliments her on her looks. She KNOWS she looks good. But she's still insecure, just like you. Most likely, her insecurities are simply in other areas. This is where you are going to be unique and make her melt....Rather than stating the OBVIOUS which every guy who hits on her is going to point out ( "you are beautiful") you are going to find other things to point out that are equally as flattering, yet have nothing to do with her looks. I don't care what it is - find something! And work it hard..:-) Trust me, she's going to pay A LOT more attention to a compliment she hasn't heard before, rather than the same stuff all the other boys are saying.
As always...There is so much more. But this is enough to get MOST beautiful women interested, and very intrigued. Start working on the above and you are going to see a very big change in the next few months, trust me....women you never believed would be coming home with YOU will. A

dealing with heartbreaks

The end of a relationship can be a very painful thing, whether it was a mutual decision, you initiated it, or your former boyfriend or girlfriend suggested you break up. You may have invested a great deal of yourself in that other person. You may have thought you were going to spend the rest of your lives together. You may find that you are losing not only a boyfriend or girlfriend, but someone you considered a best friend.
Grieving the Relationship
It is important to remember that the end of any relationship gives us cause to grieve. Breaking up with someone is like experiencing a death – the death of the relationship, of you being loved by that person, of your hopes and dreams for the future with that person. This sounds very bleak, and it is important to remember that it is also the start of new things for you. I say that breaking up is a death so you remember that it is okay to grieve.
Grieving is a process. You might feel fine one day. "Finally!" You think. "I am over her!" Then you hear "your song" on the radio, or your friends talk about her, or you find an old note from her...and you feel hurt and sad and even a little bitter all over again. Give yourself time. Permit yourself to cry if you need to cry. Do not, however, dwell in your misery – playing "your song" over and over again, or pulling out the old box of love letters every day.
Looking to the Future
The end of your relationship is also a new beginning. A new beginning for what? That is up to you! You have freedom that you may not have had before when in the relationship. Take a pottery class or get involved in a regional sports team. Meet and interact with new people. Reflect upon your relationship and ask yourself, "What have I learned from it?"
Take yourself out on dates! Discover the value of quiet, of being alone. You may even start a journal and find a favorite little cafe to go and sit and write for hours. Appreciate saying, "A table for one, please."
Avoid the Rubberband Effect
You've heard before of rebound relationships. I'll mention them again, because people continue to make this mistake time and time again. Do not bounce back into a relationship immediately after a break-up. It is a very vulnerable and emotional time for you. If you meet somebody that you're certain is Mr. or Ms. Right, wait! If they're right for you, then they'll be right for you four months down the road. You don't want to start a relationship with someone just because lonely and hurting. It isn't fair to them or to you. Enjoy the time alone and enjoy being yourself for a little while.
When the time is right, start dating again. And you will know when the time is right.

3 essential keys to planning a romantic date

Candlelight, flowers, and mood music are nice...but they do not necessarily a romantic date make. We at Romancetips spend a lot time offering suggestions for specific date ideas -- like taking him for a midnight picnic on the beach, or creating a "favorite things" date for her by making her favorite dinner and watching her favorite movie. However, we haven't offered much in the way of principles for romantic and fun dates. Until now, that is.In our tireless research and extensive dating research (going on hundreds of dates is hard work, let me tell you,) we've noticed five elements that the most romantic and successful dates always contain. And in our effort to make the world a more loving and romantic place, we've decided to let you in on them. 1. Surprise--The element of surprise is a very powerful tool. It shows foresight and planning, it says "I care enough about you to go to lengths to, well, surprise you." Women especially seem to relate surprise with romance. It doesn't need to be an elaborate scheme, either. For your next date try telling your sweetie to be ready at a certain time but do not tell them where you're going or what you'll be doing. Pick them up and blindfold them for the drive, then take them to a new spot -- perhaps a park or restaurant that has just opened. Tell your love that you found this spot and it made you long to surprise him/her with it.
2. Creativity-- Do you find your dating life or marriage falling into a rut of the "same old's?" Same old Friday night dinner and a movie date, same old lingerie, same old conversations? Creativity in your dating life keeps things fresh and passionate. When was the last time you did something silly on a date? Had a pillow fight or water war? Finger painted? Read poetry out loud? Dressed in strange clothing? If you've never done one of these things, try it on your next date. Better yet, combine two or more of these activities!
3. Interest-- Okay, this seems like a no-brainer, but for a successful date one or both of you need to be interested in the activity. Its best if both of you have a modicum of interest, but not absolutely necessary as long as the bored

3 hot sex positions!!!

The "hottest" sex positions are the best sex positions and allow both you and your partner to experience the greatest pleasure and come to an orgasm. Seems obvious, right? But it’s amazing how many otherwise intelligent people totally miss this point.
Men are often guilty of wanting to perform the kind of athletic, acrobatic, frequently-changing "sex position" style of intercourse they see in their favorite porn thinking that a woman will be impressed by their stamina and creativity, while women are often guilty of going along with what the guy wants in hopes that he’s taken their pleasure into account as well. Hot Sex Positions vs. The Wrong Sex Positions
Unfortunately this doesn’t usually happen. Some men are totally clueless and think only of how to get to their own orgasm as quickly as possible, while others want to please their partners but erroneously think this means “performing well” by keeping their erection going as long as possible.
Neither works well because both have forgotten the golden key to great sex – and that’s great communication. And I’m not only going to lay the blame at men’s feet here, many women are still too shy and inhibited to speak up and tell the guy exactly what they need in order to feel pleasure and reach an orgasm during intercourse, often because they don’t really know.
With this in mind let’s take a look at the top three sex positions and look at how they can bring a woman greater pleasure. Men if you find that it’s difficult to keep your erection while bringing a woman to orgasm first (`cause unless you’re into tantric sex and know how to orgasm without ejaculating you’re not going to bring her to an orgasm via intercourse after you had one) than try bringing her close to an orgasm with your hand or orally first before beginning intercourse. `Woman on Top` Sex Position
If you read men’s magazines the favorite positions in polls (including for women) is “doggy style,” while in women’s magazine both men and women’s favorite position is “woman on top.” Since a large majority (60-85% depending on which poll you read) of women don’t orgasm from plain old intercourse alone I’m going to put the position that puts women in charge of what goes on first…and ladies you definitely need to step up to bat and learn how to be in the driver’s seat for this one.
Variations For Greater Pleasure
Some women don’t like to be “on top” because they feel the man gets to be too lazy and only has to lay back and watch the show. You can remedy this by having the man sit up against pillows so that it’s far easier to kiss and the woman can feel more engaged with the man. The woman really does need to set the pace with this position since she’s the one with the greatest range of motion possible. If she needs greater clitoral stimulation than this position normally gives her she should arch forward and do more of a grinding motion that thrusting so that her clitoris will be rubbing up against the man pubic bone. If she needs even more stimulation she should be brave and use her own fingers to stimulate herself while finding a rhythm that works for you both. The man can add even greater stimulation by caressing the sensitive undersides of her buttocks, or stroking her back door (make sure she’s well lubricated) or even inserting a finger into her anus (but ask permission first). `Doggy Style` Sex Position
Men love this position because, well, it’s easy as pie and it allows us to gaze at a woman’s sexual plumbing. For many women it’s a favorite position because it can be great for “G-spot” stimulation, however, for many women men can thrust too deep and actually hit a woman’s cervix, which some women enjoy, but many find extremely painful.
Variations For Greater Pleasure
The key to successful “doggy style” intercourse again is communication. Just as the head of a man’s penis is the most sensitive, the first third of a woman’s vagina is the most sensitive and the “G-spot” isn’t down deep at the back, it’s on the front wall about a third of the way down (though it varies woman to woman) so you need to communicate with your lover to find the right thrust that works for her.
Also, the “G-spot” often needs a lot of stimulation before it “wakes up” so you need to either go down on a woman first orally and make sure she’s either had an orgasm already, or is pretty darn close, or you need to reach your hand around and give her plenty of clitoral stimulation at the same time to make sure she’s enjoying things the way you are.
The problem man and women have with “doggy style” is that it feels very impersonal. To make her feel more connected try a couple variations on the theme such as rear entry while you’re both on your knees, or standing, in front of a mirror so that there’s plenty of eye contact and you both get the visual stimulation of seeing exactly what’s going on – and guys don’t be lazy, unless a woman tells you otherwise, reach your hand around and give her clitoris the stimulation it needs. `Missionary Style` Sex Position
Yes, the old standard is still a favorite for many couples because it’s one of the most intimate, but again this position only works for both parties with good communication.
Variations For Greater Pleasure
The CAT or coitus alignment technique is a way to make sure you’re lined up to give her clitoris the stimulation it needs to get its groove on. To get into position the man slides forward from his normal resting place so that the woman’s clitoris is receiving stimulation from the base of the man’s penis, also his legs should rest on the outside of her legs instead of the inside. Then rather than using a thrusting motion like you’d normally engage in the woman initiate a more gentle rocking motion, making sure her clitoris is getting the stimulation and contact it needs. The man should push down gently counter resisting the woman’s upward motion.